How do i tell my little cousin to 'get lost' politely?

Question

I have an 8 year old cousin who is a very rude child .

I am older than her and i don't want to associate with her.

My parents don't like her either.

Her parents just drop her off here when they wanna go out and

get drunk or go to clubs. and when she says 'im going to sleep

over for one night', she ends up staying, and RUINING our

whole weekend, she's never appreciative of anything, and is a

spoiled brat who doesn't have the least bit of manners. She

thinks she knows everything and gets mad at EVERYTHING.

she thinks the whole world revolves around her,

and she calls just about 3-4 times a day, i'm tired of making up

excuses. and i'd feel guilty if i said something mean. but i

DON'T WANT HER COMING HERE.

i have tried not answering the phone, but she just calls back

constantly until i do. it's SO annoying

WHAT DO I DO/!?

Answer 1

Your family/household could save this child.  Imagine how she gets to run around at home.  Your parents have EVERY RIGHT to enforce house rules, and you'd be doing this child a favor if you taught her that most people don't behave the way she is allowed to behave.  I think this is a good time to suck it up and be a good role model, and influence her in a positive way.

Don't spank her, of course -- she's not your child, so you really don't have the right to discipline her that way.  But there are other methods of disciplining a child and getting a point across.

Talk with your parents about this and see what kinds of ideas you can come up with.  She seems desperate for someone to want to be with her (since her parents seem desperate to NOT be with her).

Answer 2

Hello,,turn the phone off, or give your other "cool" friends some kind of code to get you to pick up,,like let it ring 3 times and then call back,,sounds like it ain't really your problem anyway,,your parents must have something in this to allow the child to be there.

Answer 3

tell her you are going on vacation for a long time. unplug your phone, or tell her that maybe she should hang out with friends or just step off a little bit. or tell her parents she's rud to you guys. don't answer her calls, or CHANGE YOUR PHONE NUMBER! that is your LAST resort...

Answer 4

1)  Control your time.  You let it go, now take it back.

2)  She is your cousin and you are minor living in your parents home.  So you don't have the power to completely cut her off.  Anyway, she is family and you should never do that to family over something like that.

3) Correct her.  If she acts rude punish her by letting her hang out by herself.

It is your parents decision whether or not your cousin can be there.  Yet you can still adhere to your schedule.  Stop letting your world revolve around her.  Assert some authority.  She is not a one time guest that you pamper to death every time she comes, she is a regular visitor.  It will be tough at first, but let her know she has to wait her turn and to treat you with respect.

If she is rude and disrespectful, just don't play with her.  Let her know that you will play with her again when she behaves and treats you with respect.

Limit your calls and let voice mail do its job.  You are not a slave to the phone any time it rings.  If you don't want to take a call, let it go to voice mail.  Just because you get on the phone with her does not mean you have to stay on for a half hour.  Set a time limit and stick to it.

Show some tough love for your cousin.  Family doesn't grow on trees.  You should stick together.  Act like a good older cousin and mold her.  Help raise her.  She just might not know everything that she is doing wrong that makes you dislike her.  If you don't teach her - who will?  Do you want her to go out in the real world like that?

You are older.  She obviously looks up to you.  Let her know that when she comes over to your house there are rules to follow.  She's a child!  You can control her.  Just assert your self.  You'll be fine.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Your parents need to lay down the rule to her parents, and thereby to her:  you cannot come over here all the time.  

Change the phone numbers, make them unlisted for now, and do not share them with that family; or share just one, where you can shut the phone off or disconnect it when you don't want to be bothered.  

Sounds like the 8-yo is getting just enough feedback/attention to make her believe that if she keeps up, she'll get her way.  I feel rather sorry for her if her parents are leaving her to go off to clubs.  Question:  is there another relative, like a grandparent, who can get involved and lay down the law to the parents that they need to suck it up, stay home and monitor their child's behavior?  Or even step in and assume custody themselves?  Because, while it's annoying to you, it can turn downright dangerous for your cousin.  That's setting up precisely the type of personality that will be ripe for online sexual predators when she's 12-13.

Answer 6

Tell her that you don't like the way she behaves and until she can settle down, you don't want her around you.

Maybe no one has ever tried to jerk a knot in her tail.  she has no boundaries.  If your parents won't do anything, you just need to establish your personal boundaries and tell her to get lost until she learns how to act.

Put her caller ID on silent ring so you don't have to even be aware that she is calling.  Let her leave messages all day long.