How do i tell my mom i hate Home School?

Question

My Mom put me in home school and i hate it i need to tell her i need out!

Answer 1

Just be honest with her tell her how you feel

Answer 2

trust me you would not want to go to public school it is the worst you can easily get into fights kinds tease you alot of pressure if you hate home schooling you should find a new person to teach you.

Answer 3

say "i hate home school"

Answer 4

You write out a list of all the things that are bothering you and sit down and share them all, asking for her help in finding solutions. Then be willing to listen to her side of things. You might be able to solve the problems while still homeschooling, or going to school might be the best solution. Look for solutions rather than just getting out of homeschooling.

Answer 5

say "Mom....I hate this. Please be open to either exploring new ways of homeschooling so my needs can be met, or consider placing me back in traditional school. Here is a list of what is bothering me:_______,_______, and ________. How do you think we can resolve these issues while making us both still feel comfortable?"

Answer 6

First, I'd come up with something more specific than that you hate homeschooling.  Figure out exactly what it is about homeschooling that you don't like.  Make a list if you have several reasons.  Then approach her with your list.  Make sure you aren't rude and don't have a bad attitude or she'll be more likely to disregard what you have to say.  If you come with specific things you don't like, you two may be able to come up with options that could solve the problem.  

Maybe it isn't homeschooling but some aspects of *how* you're homeschooling right now that could be changed.  If you have some suggestions, some options that you'd like to be considered, that might help, too.  While going back to school might be one option, you should think of some other options that could work, too, in case your mom isn't willing to consider school for you at this time.

If you are new to homeschooling, you may just need time to adjust.  You may want to have some changes done--like using a different curriculum or different method of homeschooling, maybe you need to find some support groups to get involved with so that you make friends outside of school, maybe you need more independence in your lessons or a different schedule.

Hope you figure it out!

Answer 7

Just tell her that you like public/private school more. By the way, how can you hate home school it is the BEST!!!!!!

Answer 8

Home schooling and educational institutions have one thing in common.... they can vary, HUGELY, on their philosophy, structure and style regarding how they feel is the best way to educate their students.  Whatever style and philosophy your mom has chosen may not be fit your needs.  Or maybe she just hasn't been particularly successful at implementing what she hoped.  

Attending school may not be the panacea you think.  You might find yourself in a situation as bad or worse than you are currently in!  You're online asking this question, do you have regular access to a computer and know how to find your way around the web?  Maybe you can use this computer to conduct a little research project designed to address the problems you have with home schooling.  

Seek out sites for home schooled teens and general populations of teens who attend educational institutions.  Why do some kids love/hate home schooling or institutions??  What do the ones who love it know, have or get that the others don't? And vice versa.  

Track the responses to all of you questions as well as the SOURCES of the pools of kids you speak to (which website you posted your question to, from where the answers came, etc).  You might also track the ages - sometimes kids change so much from age 13 to 14, for example, it might show up in your results.  Seek out local students who privately schooled, public schooled and home schooled.  And I don't mean the gal, next door, who tells you how you're missing out sooo much at her school.  Get as large a sample possible, from folks everywhere online, and in your hometown.  

Weigh the results!  What philosophy and education choices have been chosen by the schools or parents whose children are satisfied vs. those who are not?  If you spend some effort and time on this project I think you might learn a lot about how both systems vary and why, and if you still opt to go to school it will be coming from a very informed perspective.  You will also have much better expectations about what you hope to get from your school of choice.  This kind of research could be difficult for ANY parent to overlook.  However, you may also discover some really interesting things about why your own situation isn't working and how to improve it without ever setting foot in someone else's institution.  On a side note, your results might be interesting to the broader society - may make it into a publication out there.  Good luck to you!

Answer 9

It sounds like you need to sit down with your mom and talk, openly and freely about why these choices were made for you, and why you are having trouble with them.

One of the great advantages of homeschool is that you can work at your pace. This means you can do more faster, and finish things in less time than you would in traditional school where everyone goes at a certain average speed- the fast ones get bored, and the slow ones get left in the dust.

One of the drawbacks is that if parents are doing the schooling, you might out-pace them and this becomes an issue as well.

Look closely at what your real issues are.

Write them down, and then sit down with your mom and talk honestly about them.

BOTH people need to be respectful int his.

Good luck to you

Kay

Answer 10

If you have so much trouble communicating with your mom, homeschooling must be tough for you.  

I think you just need to be honest and direct.  You may think she will react differently than she will.

Good luck :D

Answer 11

Just be honest with her - but be sure to be fully honest with her.  What is it that you hate about homeschooling?  Do you honestly not learn well in an individual environment, or are you just having a tough time transitioning?  (It is a transition, and not always a fun one at first.)   Do you not like your specific curriculum, or do you feel that you need a classroom and teacher in order to really learn?

Be honest with your mom, but be responsible about it too.  Don't approach her with whining or complaining, or that's all she'll hear.  (Just figured as a mom I'd give you the heads up :) )

Good luck!

Edit - I understand magicbird's point, and I'm not criticizing it, but be very, very careful about bringing this up with authorities or your school district.  It *will* open a huge can of worms, one that you may be completely unprepared for.  You are not legally able to enroll yourself in school unless you are over 18, and while you may not agree with your parents' choices, they are your parents.  Homeschooling is legal in all 50 states, and whether a school district agrees with it or not, your parents are not breaking the law; there's nothing that the school district (in most states) can do to make them stop homeschooling you unless it's proven that they are completely neglecting your education.  

They have legal responsibility for you until you are 18, and the only way to circumvent that is to bring messy and drawn-out legal charges against them.  If you're in physical danger, like an abusive home, that is definitely an option.  But please, don't go there if you're just not enjoying homeschooling.  Work with your mom to resolve the problem, either through changing how you homeschool or by asking to return to public school.

Answer 12

How long have you been homeschooling? Why haven't you told her before now? If you are afraid of hurting her feelings, that is sweet. You should care about your mother's feelings. But, you also have the right to politely express your opinions about your lifestyle. Homeschool isn't about what one person wants, it is about the whole family, especially the students. That means you. Your best interest is what matters. Now, first and foremost, I think you should respect your mom's choices for you. It is her job to do the best for you even when you are not fond of her choices. When I say express yourself politely, it does not mean to whine and hound her to get your way. That is the wrong approach and it will solve nothing. Be sure to let your mom know she is appreciated (Dad too.) But this process involves you, so you do have some say in how you are educated. Be willing to compromise. Define exactly what you do not like about homeschool. See if the two of you can come up with a way to fix those issues without abandoning the idea of homeschool. Remember, there are many paths to the top of the mountain. Examine her point of view too. Don't be one sided and she will be more likely to look at your opinion seriously. After you have shown willingness to compromise, if things still are not going well for you in homeschool, perhaps she will agree to send you back to public or private school. What is important is that you thrive, not where you go to school.

Good luck to you both! I hope you find what you need and are happy.

Answer 13

yes I would tell her and if u wait to long it will be to late, dont miss your childhood

Answer 14

Rational discussion works best with adults. Come up with good reasons, not emotional, and share with her. Tears, crying, screaming etc aren't going to work, in fact, it will probably make her dig her heels in. If you think you'll get upset, write her a letter. Tell her you understand why she chose homeschooling, and ask her to see your point of view.

If she says absolutely not, see if you can negotiate some of your more troublesome points with her. Like, if you need more social time, point out that volunteerism is important, and find someplace to volunteer. Or ask about classes in craft or sports, whatever you like. And just because you're homeschooling doesn't mean you can't hang out with your friends when they are out of school. Or if you really don't understand what she's teaching, ask her if you guys could find a tutor to help out (our public library has free tutoring every Tuesday night)

Answer 15

i think you need to be completely honest with her and say that you would rather recieve education somewhere else, maybe you could look up some schools and tell her that you would like to try this one out for example because it has good teachers  or something like that, you just need to be honest.

hope this helps, good luck =]

Answer 16

Be honest with her. I think homeschooling can be great, but if my kids were miserable in it I would want them to tell me so that I could either put them in school or look for some other way to give them what they felt they were missing.  I wouldn't want them to keep it all bottled up inside.

Answer 17

I HAVE RECEIVED  CRITICISM FROM a few WHO THINK it was WRONG for me to suggest that GLIFTOR SEEK HELP FROM ANYONE other than his HIS/HER MOTHER .  

I respectfully but strongly disagree with these critics.  May I make some important points?

First of all,  it seemed clear to me that Gliftor’s (“G” for short) mother already knows that he/she is unhappy with school, and thus to just advise G. to 'talk to his mother'  may not be a helpful answer for him.  

But Gliftor, if you haven’t told your mother yet, then by all means tell her how you feel about homeschool.  Also, if you have a father as a legal guardian, he might be an option.

But THOSE OF YOU who felt it was wrong for me to suggest possibly seeking out adults other than his mother:  

1.You offered this child. NO POSSIBLE OPTIONS , just  ÃƒÂ¢Ã‚€Â˜talk to your mother.’ What if that’s a dead end in this child’s case?   In a perfect world, all people are capable of communication and reason, but this is not a perfect world.  We don’t know what G’s mother is like.

2.  Some of you advise G. to METICULOUSLY ‘FRAME his reasons for wanting to go to school to his mother, to outline his arguments in advance, present his case to her carefully.’  ÃƒÂ¢Ã‚€Â˜Don’t cry, or whine, or make a scene , etc.

---BUT GLIFTOR IS JUST  A KID, for goodness’ sake!   He’s  NOT a college graduate or Pulitzer prize winner! What an enormous burden to put on a child’s shoulders, that HE, TOTALLY ALONE, must meticulously lay out a convincing case to his mother.in order to be heard?  And what if he fails?  Then it’s his fault?  WHY SHOULDN’T another adult be able to SPEAK with the boy, find out why he hates home-schooling, and HELP HIM TALK to the mother?  IEven if she remains against it, discussion is always healthy.  Maybe educators can  reassure her regarding her fears—maybe the mother erroneously believes the school is dangerous, as 2 schools in Philly are—they can show her that the  murder rate in their schools is low).

3. A couple of you (esp. through personal email)  seemed to equate  '‘talking to an outside adult’  with ‘accusing the mother of 'abuse'  in the home.’  I NEVER EVER SAID such a thing, never meant such a thing,, never implied it, and I have NO reason to suspect such a thing—after all, the child never suggested such a thing so why would I leap to such an unfounded and irresponsible conclusion?

--ironically, it is those couple of you say that it was ‘wrong’ for me to suggest that this boy speak to an adult outside the home who are implying that there is ‘abuse in the home.”  NOT I.  NO  decent parent would ‘punish’ a child for telling an adult he was unhappy being home schooled, or for asking if there was some adult he could talk to--Instead, a responsible parent of an unhappy child would respect the strengfh of her child's feelings and perhaps could arrange a meeting (with the child present) and DISCUSS the situation with an authority, even if she was still determined to home school.  At least then the child would know that his feelings had been heard and respected.

--and what a sorry state this country has come to if a child can’t seek outside adults in authority to TALK to about his feelings because OTHER ADULTS are afraid the parents might not like it!  What about the child here? Is he expected to live in a box?

4.  I know that by law it's the parents to decide about home-schooling for the child, but WHY SHOULD THAT RULE OUT any or all communication with their district’s EDUCATORS?  Why should the mother feel threatened by such a meeting—her, her son, and an educator? The teachers know the law, they aren't going to break it!  Maybe they can think of a COMPROMISE solutiion that both mother and son would like.

5.  When I suggested seeking out an adult outside—I only suggested  a 'policeman,' or fireman, among others because if the boy lives ‘way out in the country, as I used to, he may not have any way  to make direct contact with his school district people; thus a policeman he knows might be the only available adult who can pass the message on for him. Remember—since he doesn’t go to school, he does NOT have daily contact with teachers like most children do.  

OR let’s say the mother doesn’t want the child in school because she fears  religious beliefs outside her own—then maybe a talk with her Pastor might be a helpful thing for the 2 of them.

Again, this is NOT  about ‘reporting wrongdoing.’ Because there hasn’t BEEN any wrong-doing.  

It’s about helping this child gain access to knowledgeable adults whom he can talk to.

Personally, although I know all of you meant well, I also feel that it sends an unhealthy message to the child—to effectively teach him that, because he is home-schooled,  his mother is the only ADULT in the world he can talk to about his feelings—that there are No Other Options—and that he has to  Go  It Alone with his Own carefully-prepared presentation, so he’d ‘better get it right.’  THE CHILD has to do all the thinking here? That’s a LOT to ask of a child.  

And who knows?  Maybe the educators can think of compromises that the mother never knew existed and would love to have for her child--like swimming or music lessons or something.

Are we as a nation turning our backs on our children, if we can’t help them find someone to talk to?  It sounds like it to me.  

Anyway, we all wish the best for Gliftor.  

Gliftor, good luck!  If you’re willing to tell us, let us know how it goes!

Magicbird     [e-mail]

PS:  G, one point that your mother might not have thought of--your local government spends over $10,000/year to educate each child, and the money comes from taxes.  To me it seems that parents who home school are throwiing away a great bargain--$10,,000/year of education that their child is entitled to!

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FIND AN ADULT OUTSIDE YOUR FAMILY TO TALK TO--A LIBRARIAN, POLICEMAN, SCHOOLTEACHER, FIREMAN.  AND IF THE FIRST ADULT CAN'T HELP YOU, ASK ANOTHER.

My heart goes out to you because my neighbors have 4 children that they home-school, and the children seem so unhappy.  I asked the one boy, when our dogs were playing together, if he enjoyed being home-schooled-- and his answer was, "I've never known anything else."

A different  friend's daughter was also home-schooled and hated it too.  The girl put her foot down and told her parents she wanted to go to school no matter what.  In HER case it worked, but will it work in yours?  I don't know.  Parents are funny animals (I'm one myself).   Your parents  may or may not be open to your desires.

If your parents are NOT willing to send you to public school, then--and this may be frightening in your situation, I don't know--but you can always try calling, or better still, going to your local school yourself and TELLING THEM YOURSELF  how you feel--that YOU WANT to go to school, but that your parents say no.

I don't know if it will work, and yes, you'll be opening a can of worms, I realize that--but there's no question that the school counselors and teachers will WANT to help you.  Whether state law will allow it, I don't know.  But if you have numerous educators on your side, the pressure will be on your parents to let you go to school.

I wish you luck, will pray for you--and my email address is:

[e-mail].  Whatever you decide, I"M on your side. Contact me and I will help as best as I can to connect you with your school system authorities, if that's what you want me to do.   Magicbird., mother of 3.

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ADDENDUM--AN IMPORTANT QUESTION:  WHY DOES YOUR MOTHER WANT TO HOME-SCHOOL YOU IN THE FIRST PLACE? hAS SHE EXPLAINED HER REASON(S)?  

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Answer 18

I understand how you feel, I hated homeschooling too. My mom wouldn't listen, but hopefully yours will. Just tell her something's bothering you, but you want to approach it in a mature way with her instead of fighting. She'll appreciate that. Then tell her how you honestly feel (whether because you don't like being in the house all day or don't get to see your friends, or whatever the reason). Tell her you'll work hard in public/private school, but you just don't feel like you're receiving the best education you can with her(while also telling her that that's not her fault, you just feel you'd learn better in an active social setting). If she respects you then she should understand. Good luck!

Answer 19

I hate homeschool too. Tell her that you need to make more freinds and do more activitys if this is true. If you have siblings who are homescooled too mabey you could all tell your mom together that you hate homescool and she will be more likely to let you go to regular school.

Answer 20

You just tell her you don't like it very much in a nice way and tell her the reason and try to be understanding of what she has to say.

But I also know how you feel, I've been home schooled since Kindergarten and sometimes I feel like I just need out of this stupid program and just want to go to school with some of my friends who aren't home schooled. You jsut need to hang in there and I'm sure your Mom has a good reason for putting you in home schooling. (:

I hope every thing works out :D

Miranda Joy

Answer 21

You just sit down with her in a gentle and rational way and have a conversation.  Say what you think in a mature manner with respect and then be quiet and listen to what she says without interrupting.  Then ask if you can come to a compromise that is agreeable to both of you.   You didn't say what her reasons were for making this choice.  Nor did you say how old you are or whether you were asked for your opinion when the decision was made.  You may need to hear that spoken in order to understand her choice.  

Just talk it out and best wishes to you.