How do i tell my over-protective brother ?

Question

how do i tell my over-protective brother who does not live with me anymore (married) that i am going to spend the weekend with my bf's family (him and his parents). My family is a semi-traditional indian family where girls do not spend nights by the guy's home because it will reflect badly on her family. my bro is a bit more modern, but i am still anxious. my dad died since i was 2 and he is 11 yrs olderthan me and very protective of his only sister.

Answer 1

You did not state how old you are.  If your over the age  of 18 then you do what you want.  It sounds like your looking for an excuse not to go and would like to blame it on your brother.  If you know what is expected out of you by the way that you are raised, then you know the answer to your question would be no you don't go and spend the weekend with his family.  If your over the age of 18, working and independent and do not wish to respect your family, then I say go by all means.  The reason that your so anxious is because it goes against everything that you have been taught.  Good Luck

Answer 2

Same, im indian and i get what you mean by it looks bad . .

And i have an older brother . .

Just say, its just one or two nights, and his parents will be there, insure him you will be fine!

Good luck!

=]

Answer 3

if you are grown and old enough to make legal decision then do what you want to you don't need you brother permission

Answer 4

it depends on your age, if you're old enough, do as you please it has nothing to do with him.

Answer 5

as it may be a family thing not to spend nights over at other person's house, nobody can stop you. like everyone else is saying, depending on your age, you can do whatever you want. I'm just saying if I were in your shoes,(and a girl) i would totally do it. What's the worst thing that could happen.  by the sounds of it, it sounds like you could be in college if your boyfriend's parents are letting you stay over. your old enough to make your own decisions. if you wanna do this, then go.

Answer 6

Its very sweet that your brother is so protective of you....and tell him that you love him for it...there are many young women who would love to have that in their lives!!! If you're staying with your boyfriend and his parents, it's not like the two of you are unsupervised...if your mom is letting you go...it should be alright...depending on how old you are, I see nothing wrong with having your brother speak to those parents, unless your over 18...then what you do is actually you're own business...thank bro very much for the look out, and do what you need to do....

Answer 7

You're a grown woman, you don't need to tell your brother anything.