How do i tell my parents that i am pregnant?? i 13??

Question

ok well i am thirteen and i had s*x wit a guy in highschool and he is 17. my parents are very strict and think that i am a virgin. they are divorced and i dont talk to them much. if i tell them they will kill me and i afraid they might hurt me.

i will not have an abortion, but i not sure that i can raise a baby at thirteen. so how should i tell them without them killing me?

Answer 1

You can say you need to go to the doctors, make something up, then ask your parents to leave the room and talk to your doctor, they will inform your parents, if you ask them to anyway. Your mother will probably react better than your father, so make her take you.

Answer 2

Well, grab a friend you really trust.

And tell them with the friend present, so they don't freak out as much at first. It'll be easier for you.

Then, you're only 13, so you don't need to be taking care of a baby.

If your mom is willing to "pretend" the baby is her own, then thats great.

Not really pretend, just basically take care of the kid.

A 13 yr old has SCHOOL. You can't take care of the kid.

Or maybe consider adoption.

And open adoption will be hard for you.

Think about a closed adoption, but the kid can contact you when their 18 if they want.

And even talk to the father of the kid.

Its half his kid too.

He needs to know about it and you all have to decided what to do with it.

Answer 3

ur fully Shite

Answer 4

Number one they are not going to kill you. They might grill you for not using proper protection but you should tell them. You have to tell them. You can't come home sneaking a baby into your house. You can always put the baby up for adoption. That is the best for both parties as you won't have to take care of it and it will stay alive.

Answer 5

if you think they will hurt you, you better go tell your school counsellor. Tell her that you are pregnant and that you need some support in telling your parents. Then maybe she can call them in and you can tell them with her there and then they wont do anything and your counsellor can give them advice on how to deal with this.

Leave when they cool off and they wont hurt you because if they do then the school will call the police.

ask school counsellor for help!

Answer 6

I don't know if this is real or not, but I am assuming you wouldn't joke about such a serious matter. First things first, make 100% sure you are pregnant. Have you been feeling motion sickness? Have you missed your period? Other than these things, you can go out and get yourself a home pregnancy, no age limit to buy one. Next, yes, tell your parents, but who you wanna tell first is up to, tell the parent you are closest with, and if they love you, they will support you through the duration. After telling them, you two (3) will decide exactly what is best for the baby. I don't know if you are pro-life, or pro-choice, but an abortion is a possibility, but that's not ideal in this situation, you are just a child yourself, and I do not think you would be capable of raising a child, but that's just an assumtion from your age... There's always adoption, or your parents could raise the baby until you are on your feet and feel comfortable enough to raise the baby yourself.

Really the choice is up to, but please, tell your parents, they'll know what to do. Best of luck =)

Answer 7

Oh honey you've gotten yourself into something now. There are several approaches you can take:

A) The note approach. Just write a note it can tell them you are pregnant or you can just say that you need to talk with them.

B) Telling them outright. Get them together and tell them.

C)  Tell a RELLY good female friend first then have her there for support when you tell them.

But the most important thing in you have to tell them and don't be affarid to. They are your parents and will love you no matter what.

And to thoes people calling you names:   Shame on you!!! Shame on you all you aniamls have you no guilt?!

Answer 8

bring them together and and tell them you have to tell them sumthing you think they should kno. and then u say i lost my virgenity to a 17 year old guy and then say u found out ur pregnant!

Also u are a troll!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Well first off tell them that they need to get your a tutor for your grammar.

Answer 10

Write her a note that says something along the lines of "Mom, I know that you will be dissapointed with me, because I made a mistake, but I am pregnant. I have decided that I will keep the baby/give it up for adoption. I hope that you will support me, because that is what I need right now, love

your daughter.

Answer 11

who ask you to have s*x with him... idiot!!!

anyway, try to ask them what if you are pregnant and wait for their response. if they get mad, try another time.

Answer 12

They won't hurt you they will be trying to kill your baby's father, by the way its more than likely he's going to prison for having s*x with you, anyone his age should know better, even you. Tell them everything you know as leaving things unsaid will only create more problems, your parents are most likely to band together, and help you raise you child but perhaps I'm wrong, all the best of luck to you, maybe this is a lesson worth learning.

Answer 13

Honesty is the best policy is what I have learned.

You have to learn how to start being just real and honest with people no matter what the consequences.

I know you are young and you probably did not do this intentionally but when you have a child you have to grow up very fast and now is a good time to start setting and example for your own seed to live by. So just take a deep breath, don't think too much on it, and just tell them.  

If they lay one finger on you then you call 911 !!!

They could hurt your baby.

Answer 14

Tell them (or write them a note) how youre incredibly sorry, how you really want them to forgive you, then say it. Apologize before you actually break the news because then they'll know you meant no harm or whatever, and wont walk away or ignore you if you try to apologize. So something like "Im so sorry, I never meant for this to happen, I dont know what to do and I really need your support in this so please dont shun me out, I really need you at the moment and I hope you understand, but Im pregnant...." and you can tell them the whole story if you want to. Oh and tell your mum before you tell your dad....

You have 2 things you can do if you dont want to abort the baby - keep it and raise it, or put it up for adoption. A baby is incredibly expensive, especially for a 13 year old, so you would really need your parents support (and a baby you need to tend to almost 24/7). If you put it up for adoption, you may feel guilty for 'giving it away', but think of it as youre giving your child to a loving couple who probably can't make children for themselves. In future, you can decide whether you want to meet the kid or not...

Oh and if you are a troll, this isnt funny.

Answer 15

Hint: Don't use improper grammar when trying to tell someone else to use proper grammar.

Answer 16

that's statutory rape and it will show eventually. if you think your responsible enough to even have s*x then you should have used protection, use your head.

Answer 17

tell a school counselor and have them bring your parents in n have a talk also before you tell them talk to someone about you optionis maybe adoption?

good luck

Answer 18

wow

Answer 19

Good job for deciding to not get an abortion--please stick to that.  I would lecture...but I'm pretty sure you've learned your lesson by now.

Have a friend with you when you tell them, at least when you first do, so they wont freak out initially when they find out.  After a while, your friend can leave, and you can discuss reality with your parents.  

I assume you will be giving your baby up for adoption?  Make sure you take care of it well.  I admire you so much for making this noble decision--so few people are brave enough to.  God bless!

Answer 20

after u tell them(you kinda have to) go to a crisis pregnancy center with ome of them and they can help you with everything good descision to not get an abortion!!

Answer 21

Well, the most important thing is that you DO NOT keep it from her..because after a while, shes gonna figure out.

if you dont want her to FREAK out and hurt you, you may want a friend or someone with you so that she will feel that she cant yell as much when you first tell her infront of another person. You also need to acknowledge to your mom that you understnad that you made a very large mistake, you learned your lesson, and you understand that she is angry/ disappointed in you. Tell her she has every right to be upset/mad with you, and you totally understand.  This will let her know that you understand how serious the situation is..just act mature =] Im glad that you've decided not to get an abortion, but raising a baby at 13 probably isnt the best option.  Maybe you could look into a couple who is seeking adopting a baby, that maybe couldnt have one of their own (like the movie Juno lol). But just do whats right hun.

Answer 22

First of all, call your best friend. Do not talk to your parents straight away. Explain your best friend everything and she can go and talk to you parents and keep them calm.

Visit your parents after 2 days after you friend have explained everything to them. Do not argue. Just go and apologise and explain that it is not the poor baby's fault so abortion is not a good idea. If they get mad on you, just listen to everything they say without arguing.

Everything will be alright.Keep faith.

Answer 23

WOW 13

GOOD LUCK

i would be scared hun.

next time use ur brain be for u do stuff with stupid guys.

sorry take care

Answer 24

sounds like this girl i know....

Answer 25

I think you are a troll.

Answer 26

s*x= making babies

s*x is for making babies -.- If you have s*x, it obviously means that you want a baby (that's what your body thinks.)

So no matter how much protected, you still can get pregnant.

Just go, tell them, call that guy and just bear with the consequences.