How do i tell my parents that ive fell inlove with a person older than my own father?

Question

Im 21 next year but i dont know how to tell my parents about my feelings, i know they will not except it and they do not like this person even though they have never spoke to him.

Answer 1

If your family are controlling, that in itself can cause all sorts of problems for you and any relationship you have. But if your mind is set on this relationship, then go for it as you are old enough to make your own decisions. Parents can be strange beings and some of them seem to think they are a law unto themselves. But remember, if your relationship takes off then you will ultimately have your own family, even if there are no children.

As you also state you are both serious, therefore you have spoken about a relationship at depth with him. You know what you want so go get it and we all hope it works out for you.

You will always find people who are set in their ways and they will always think an older man and young lady is wrong. But hey what do they know, they are probably people with no sense of adventure.

Take no notice of socalxba... she seems to have had a bad time with her relationship. So I don't really understand why some people should be bitter about others relationships.

Best of luck, but i'm sure you don't need it

Answer 2

START PACKING  

Answer 3

go out the door you came in.

failing that... good luck.............

Answer 4

it is your decsion, so make sure you think about your decision thrice.

Answer 5

You sit them down and tell them, there is no point hiding it from them and it's your life. They don't have to love him as long as you do.

Answer 6

mom,dad im 21 yrs old and im still so immature that i ve found someone older than u my daddy-btw dont worry u ll get over it n find someone good or after 10 yrs u ll to bring him his milk in bed n clean him cuz he wont be able to clean himself

Answer 7

love knows no bounds,at 21 years of age you are old enough to make your own decisions and if your parents dont like him its their loss

Answer 8

You're 21, basically an adult. It's your life. Doesn't matter how you do it, whether they know or not. They will eventually find out, and not like it. The "best" that can come out of your parents is that they will "learn" to accept it, but even with that...would it really matter to both of you as a couple?

Also, it also depends how long you've known your partner. Any parent will get upset if you are already planning to have a baby with a guy you met last week...just an example of course.

Good luck.

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BTW you can listen to "socalxba...", but don't believe everything she says. I am turning 25 this year, and have been w/ a man 10 yrs older than me for 3 yrs. We are happy as h**l. We think alike and have so much in common, we forget our age. People should not start lecturing as if they know everything. YES, there's a possibility of "infatuation", as I've gone through that with a YOUNGER man close to my age as well. Age has nothing to do with having more possibility of an "infatuation". It depends on the PERSON, on the ATTITUDE. Focus on that, not on the age.

Answer 9

Quickly with your running shoes on ;-)

Answer 10

to be honest i wouldnt tell them unless you and this guy are thinking about starting a relationship, at 21 you are old enough to make your own decisions and mistakes but be prepared for them to not be accepting

Unfortunatly relationships with huge age gaps are socially acceptable so people will react negative towards it

hope you get on okay  

Answer 11

Doesn't really matter how you tell them, they're not going to like it.

Answer 12

just tell them that he has money and will soon die from old age .. so they shouldnt worry because once his dead you will get his fortune and marry someone young and have lovely babies

Answer 13

you arent in love.

that is just kinda gross too.

i will never understand how girls say they're in love with some old guy. way too old for them. it is just unrealistic. i have been with a guy 10 yrs older than i was at the time, and the differences in age, maturity were so apparent to me, it was just plain stupid. it won't last. most likely you are just infatuated with this man.

you should think why this man is not with other women his own age. somethign has to be wrong with that picture. he's probably just with you because you are a young hottie and wants to get in your pants.....which is the plain truth as to why any older man goes for a young girl. that is almost pedophileish.............unless he is loaded. i cant make sense of anyone. especially you. 21 bursting with life, would want to be with an old guy.

i would recommend trying to find someone closer to your own age. you are 21. i am 21. find someone young and as full as life as you are! being with grampa is no fun!!!!!

just really look at your relationship.

being with someone your parents don't approve is no good. and should be a sign for you to get out. how could you ever choose any man over your family? family is the only thing you have.

just really think about it. do you really have a future with this old guy? please. save yourself and get a young boy who you can be crazy with and have fun in life.

i am not trying to be mean. i just do not believe you are truly in love with this man. please make sure you really think about this relationship before you make it go on any longer.

Answer 14

Just sit them down on your own at first and come straight out with it. Stay calm and sensible, even if they start shouting, keep control of yourself. That will show them your old enough and mature enough to make sensible decisions. But come on, ur 21 for goodness sake. You should be able to do as you please.