How do i tell the father that i am pregnant? ?

Question

I am a 20 almost 21 year old college student and I just found out I am 10 almost 11 weeks pregnant. The father is a friend and we never really had a title but I care about him. I am not sure what i want to do but he is went back away at school already and i don't really know what to do. We were careful and used protection but at some point it failed. I value his opinion but i don't want him to get to make the decision either. I am not really sure what to do anyone have any advice for me.

Answer 1

The good thing is ur at a good age, if ur father had goals for you, maybe he'll be dissapointed, but come one ur tummy's going to get bigger sooner or later, congratulations

mayb eu can drop the bomb as dad, ur about to be  a grandpa

i know it's not easy, but you the job has to get done sooner or laater

Answer 2

You just say to him that even though we were trying to be safe, it wasn't 100% and I am pregnant. He will hopefully take responsibility. Good luck.  

Answer 3

Hi, if this guy is a friend and you care for him then you should include him in your choices. Tell him in person, carefully and expect him to feel all the emotions you felt when you found out. Then tell him that you want to include him in the choices you need to make and ask him how he feels - does he want to be included? If not, fine, but he does deserve the option. I wish you the best of luck with it.

Answer 4

hey im a year younger and im now 16 weeks pregnant.  When i told my boyfriend i was pregnant and he freaked.  For the first little while there was no way we were going keep it altho i was preaty excited about it.  So we looked into all of our options and decided it was better to take care of the situation...  I was scared and very upset.  I think what made me want to keep it more and more was because i had spoken to alot of ppl.  And i did make up my own mind but they just got me more and more excited, my boyfriend on the other hand was just keeping it to himself and just freaking out more and more, i always told him to talk to someone and he finaly did, two hours later he decided that we were keeping it and now im having a healthy pregnancy.  

          My advise to you is to tell him in a very positive way and place.  I think its easyer to inhale the news that way :) and don't expect him to know right away what he wants, ( it may take a while) tell him what you want, and get him to speak to his friends.  I think family might push him more towards the "right decision"  deepending on what they may think is better but its all about yours and his decision.  You may not be together so this is up to you, but i think its something really really wonderful thats happening to you.  :) good luck!

     I know it isnt one of those happy couples finaly having a baby stories but its still a wild amazing news!  Congradulations!

P.S.  Abortion is not killing, you are getting preaty far along so it may be harder but just think of it as letting your fetus's soul go on to a family that may be happyer with a child at the time being.

      Please tell him face to face, its more respectful. You can message him and say you have  some big news to get him prepared but it would be better face to face.  You were saying he was gone to school? if hes too far then over the phone not e-mail, show him you care and you can take responcibility!

Answer 5

I would just tell him. It would make it worst if he found out from someone else.  

Answer 6

As you know the decision is ultimately up to you. I have 4 children the first of witch was born under terrible circumstances. She is 14 now and is an amazing smart beautiful young woman.  Make your decision and then tell him what you are going to do.  

Answer 7

Just call him and tell him, but make sure you give him the heads up before calling him. Like text him and be like hey i really have something important to tell you call me when you can. Then just be just catch up and say so what have you been up too? How college make small talk, and then he will say so what have you been up too? and you say not much found out i was pregnant. and he will be like OHHH {and all the while thinking and go on} and then say its yours. [then a long silence will happen] and you after a while say are you okay i wasn't sure how to tell you. Then depending on what type of guy he is he will either claim its not his or figure out where it went wrong and go into shock then have a mental melt down.  -_- Guys! I swear girls have to deal with it first then guys go nuts and wonder why girls aren't going nuts! I say be prepared for the following things being said :

1. How do you know its mine?

or

Are you sure its mine?

2. How do you know? (stupid i know)

3. When did you find out

4. I thought we used a condom. What happen?

5. How far along are you. (if he caring)

6. Omg omg. What am i going to do. **** are serious?

7. Have you gone to the doctor? What did he say.

8. why didn't you tell me sooner?

And he will go on and on or he will be like uh idk are you sure and you say yes and you go okay and he saids bye. He could hang up on you, but i doubt it. Since he is your friend. He might need some time to think so don't worry if you tell him and he doesn't call the next day or 2 doesn't mean he doesn't care just mean hes trying to adjust to the fact because Hes been blind sighted.

Answer 8

Its not his decision to make so don't tell him until you decide what you are going to do.  I hope you keep the baby, ur already far along and college may take you a little longer to get through but you can do it with or without him. Prepare yourself for the worst (getting hurt) when you tell him because men can be really cruel, especially when it comes to pregnancy.  Hopefully he will be man enough to step up but if he don't, then your better off without.

Answer 9

you and him need to talk about it...good luck...just remember ABORTION IS MURDER!

Answer 10

Well, the best thing for you to do is to decide what you want to do first- and from there talk to him, you never know he may just have the same view as you do.

Answer 11

Can you tell ur mom 1st? If you tell ur mom, she can be supportive in telling your dad. Good luck

Answer 12

i feel for you but know mater what this is your decision don't let anyone make it for you...good luck

Answer 13

Just call him and tell him.  get it over with.  you really need to start prenatal care and start making decisions about what you want to do.  

Answer 14

if you dont want to tell him face to face text him or call him...

you might want to tell him and see then he thinks

Answer 15

I would tell him no matter what.  and let him know you will do it with or without him but preferably with him.   that's pretty much all you can do right now.

Answer 16

If you really don't want to tell him face to face, write him an email, or leave him a voicemail or something.  I really hope you are not considering abortion.  Most guys will demand one, but this is your body and your baby and don't let him make you think you have to!