How do i uninvite guests?

Question

I sent out an evite for my daughter's 1st birthday. The list is family only...but my husband has 16 aunts and uncles, 20 cousins who are the same age as us, and 15 neices and nephews who are the same ages as our girls. I only have my brother and my daughter's god mother coming to the party. My husband wants his family to be there but he doesnt want the whole world...so i sent out an evite knowing nobody would show because its at the beach and parking is $10...but apparently some are coming, which is ok with him..but he's b*tching to me at the same time about the guest list he created. So how do I cancel the evite and only invite his mom and sister withouth having everyone freak out as to why they couldnt go?

Answer 1

If your husband okayed the guest list and is now pulling back, then this is his dirty work to take care of.  If I were you, I would not un-invite anyone.  This is tacky and sure to make people angry.  After all, why are they being cut?  Why not so-and-so?  You did the inviting.  How would you feel if you received an invitation to a party only to days later receive one that says 'Sorry, we're cutting back our guest list and don't want you after all!'  That'd make you feel pretty crummy.

I would tell your husband that you sent out the invitations and who comes, comes and that is the end of it.  Next year he can be more selective on who he wants to invite.

Answer 2

You can't do that without looking like an idiot. Maybe you should plan things better in the future so you don't run into this problem again.

Answer 3

If he made the list then he will have to deal w/ it. Remind him that it is his side of the family & HE is the one that wanted to invite them.  

Answer 4

depending on how many days are left to the party, maybe you could tentatively change the location or "postpone" the party and just let the people you want know about the real thing. But I feel like if there isn't much time then, you might be stuck with those people coming, but maybe you could take down the evite somehow?

Answer 5

If your husband made the list,let him do the dirty work.If it's at the beach suggest each guest bring a covered dish.Just go with the flow.You don't have to pay for their parking.Let them know it's $10 to park.