How do people get people to give them gifts for weddings and such?

Question

We didn't get many gifts for our wedding and I always wondered how that works. I thought too, when our son was born, we'd get gifts, but nothing. My parents had a little savings account book for me and it showed people gave me money when I was born that went into my savings. It's almost like people who know us don't trust us to keep the child's money for him? Or have times simply changed? Or do people hate me, which is what I actually think?

Answer 1

well, first of all, when your son was born, most people don't just automatically give gifts. if you invited them to the baptism, then had a party afterwards, then they would get you gifts though.and if people didn't trust YOU with the money, they could have always gotten your son a savings bond in his name so that you couldn't touch the money, it would be for him when he got to a certain age...

but as far as not getting wedding gifts.. did you have a reception after the wedding? normally when people are invited to a wedding and reception, they get the bride and groom gifts.

Answer 2

Well having a wedding or a baby is not about getting gifts.

for a wedding if you have a regisrty thats one way people know what to get you.  Also, the most informal or smaller a wedding is, the less gifts you will get.

And when you had you son, did you have a shower?

Peoplea re aware that sometime when you give moeny to a child the parents end up spending it before the child can.  And times are tough!

Answer 3

It just sounds like the people in your life aren't gift givers.  Or maybe you're not a gift giver and they are following suit.

Answer 4

About your wedding - you have to register for gifts and let your family & friends know.  As far as your son's birth - did you mail out "Birth Announcements"?????

Answer 5

It really depends on the people in your life. A lot of people these days don't have a lot of money to spend, look around you and listen to people it is not hard to figure out who has financial problems. It could be that people did not know what to get for you, there are gift registries for weddings and babies.

If you are judging how people feel about you by how many gifts you get then maybe people sense that. I know if I thought that someone judged the worth of my friendship on the gifts I gave them I would probably not feel like spending much on them.

Answer 6

You cannot expect people who are struggling to make car payments, buy groceries, pay the rent, buy clothes for their children, and fill their gas tanks to buy expensive or lavish wedding gifts or baby gifts.

People give what they can afford so if you did not receive many wedding or baby gifts its because your friends and relatives could not afford to buy lavish or expensive wedding gifts.  Think about it . . what are you going to do first?  Go to the grocery store and buy food for your family or buy an expensive baby gift?

And here's something else to consider.  What type of gifts to YOU give your friends and relatives?  What they did or did not give you or your baby may be a reflection of what YOU gave them as a wedding or baby gift.

Answered by:  A Certified wedding specialist / A Professional bridal consultant / A Wedding ceremony officiant

Answer 7

did you'll register @ a store and let everyone know where you wer registered it does'nt have to be an expensive place even wal mart fill out the registry list of thins you like @ different places remember a lot of people shop on line now then you can just pick up yur items later