How do people get social skills?

Question

Why do some people have social skills and some don't? I'm wondering whether social skills are acquired through learning and experience or are already genetically defined- and whether someone without social skills could ever learn.

Answer 1

socialising is all it takes

i think people just need to learn to me comfortable about themselves

aswell as becoming comfortable is social environments

it just takes practice

Answer 2

Maybe because they havnt soicalized much in their life and find it akward for themselves to speak to others.

It takes time and pracitce and yes learning it depends on how early they are introduced to socializing

People without social skills can learn they do have a brain to  

Answer 3

They come from social interaction. Anyony without them learns or is forced outside the circle.

Answer 4

Social skills are learned. They are not innate. As we get older it becomes harder to learn once the clemency of childhood has worn off like a magical spell's effects. Just as in The Sims more social interactions will increase our sociability.

Answer 5

Its both genetic and learned. The best way to learn social skills is to surround  your self with social situations and push your comfort zone from time to time, if you are in middle or high school dont sweat those knuckle heads, things change dramatically after that part of your life. stay true to who you are and how you feel you should be as your own self. Thats what makes you you!  

Answer 6

Defineatlely learned.  It's about confidence, self esteem and self image.  Social skills are just a by product of these.  When you feel good about yourself everybody will be interested in getting to know you. With a little work you can develop all those skills, then not only do you socialize well, you feel great about yourself too.  It's awsome. I have a website that deals with all this stuff and shows you how to improve these areas of your life.  Have a look, it think it might help.  If not there are some good links there to get you going.

http://www.Dream-Life-Coaching.com

Best of luck

Answer 7

Everybody develops some social skills, simply by mixing with other people; they learn from whoever looks after them from birth, in a home environment and then at school, college, joining clubs or interest groups.

Some people are inherently shy and lack self confidence and feel inferior in or overwhelmed by company. They may be happy to have only a few friends and may be quite content with their own company for much of the time.

It's only a problem for someone who wants to be more comfortable around others. There are various ways that self-confidence in public can be built up. Therapy is extreme, but joining a group with similar interests or issues should be a start.

Answer 8

It depends on the people they meet you can be very social with those you feel are caring and loving and who except you for who you are.  However there are those who are naturally mean.

Answer 9

Don't be weird :)