How do "I let the past go and move forward?"

Question

I'm still living in the past, I have self-esteem problems, I can't accept my life and others; I try to change people. Um...I have no confindence in myself, I don't think positive, I hate myself, and there's a fear holding me back from living my life.

Answer 1

It depends on what your refering to. Some people pasts are very difficult to move on from.

Time is the best healer,you cannot forget the past but can move on from it.

Therapy helps in alot of areas.

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Wow you sound a bit like me. I also had a horrid child hood, have suffered from post traumatic stress syndrome, have clinical depression. I had therapy for 9 years. Life is good now, time and support is really the best thing and learning that life is too short, concentrate on the good parts of your life rather then focusing on the bad and what happened.

What happened happened,you cant go back and change it, learn from it, every experience makes you into who you are and i bet you are a very strong person who has not yet realised it.

Answer 2

The d**n medication if half your problem.  And personally, shrinks just steal your money.  They don't help!

You don't hate yourself; you hate what you've become.  But you can still change that.  You just have to believe you can.

Answer 3

Chloe,

One word.  "Forgive".  Forgive the people who hurt you.  This is the only way. Please trust me.  I know it is very hard, but just pick a date, and decide, this is the day I will forgive this person.  And when ever you start playing those old hurtful/painful records in your head, remind yourself,

"I forgave that person on 8/?/8. I am letting it go. The pain, anger, bitterness, and resentment. I will not allow the past to hurt me any longer".

Keep doing this over and over in your mind and you will be able to control your emotions about the past hurtful situation and let it go.

Forgiveness equal freedom.

Answer 4

Are you on medication for Generalized Anxiety?

I have this disorder as well, and I found that a lot of what was holding me back from what i wanted to do was a consequence of the medication, oddly enough. I think the most important thing to be treated for is depression, and if your medication isn't working, that should be your top priority. Sometimes mixing medications can interfere with each other, and so you could be having a negative reaction as a result of that.

I know how difficult is is to feel anxious/unsure all the time. As for trying to change people, you are probably trying to make them into someone who can identify with you. What you really need is to talk to someone - someone who isn't your therapist, maybe. you need a friend - it can be just a friend or a family member or just someone who will listen to you and that you feel you can identify with.

My biggest suggestion:

Figure out your medication. Meet new people. Leave this life behind and be who you want to be.

Answer 5

try to find other things to distract you go somewhere.

Answer 6

write in a journal about the past that bothers you

and it will help you let it go

Answer 7

seems like we have the same childhood experience. letting go  from the past and moving on is not an easy thing to do. You should  

go of your past by accepting that there's nothing you can do to change the past. You did the best you could. When you're facing your failures, know that you were as good, loving, and effective as you could have been. If you were to go back, you couldn't do anything differently because that's who you were and that's what you knew then. It's done. Let go.

Letting go of your past means forgiving yourself for your mistakes. Ruminating on what you could've or should've done is ineffective and unhealthy. If you're dealing with your mistakes or facing your failures, try to forgive yourself.

Letting go of your past means being aware of your thoughts. When you find yourself dwelling or obsessing over the past or the person you lost, gently draw your thoughts back to the present. Let go of your obsession, whether it's an addictive relationship or lost child.Letting go of your past means trusting the nature of time. You will heal and move on. Your wound will slowly close up and soon only a faint scar will remain - if you let go of your past.Letting go of your past means making new connections with people. You don't necessarily have to make a whole new set of friends; you can initiate a new type of friendship with a colleague or invite a neighbor over for coffee. If you talk about facing your failures, you'll be better able to actually face your failures.Letting go of your past means seeking balance in your conversations. It's important to vent and share your pain and sadness, and it's equally important to show your interest in other people's lives. Letting go of your past means letting go of yourself.

To be able to move on, one has to learn to forgive not only the person (or people) who have done one wrong but also oneself.  You are responsible for your life.

  

Answer 8

Think that there are a lot of persons who are more miserable than yourself. You are in a difficult situation but you can definitely get out of it. Believe in yourself, in your uniqueness. Have faith. Try to find new interests. Confide in your friends and families, I'm sure that they will not let you down. And remember that in such times, we recognize our real well-wishers and that there is always someone to help you. You are not alone. Best of luck.