How do shy people go thru the social path in college?

Question

i am going to college soon and i'm just wondering, i am kinda shy. like, i can talk but i'm not like the life of the group you know what i mean? i just wonder for those who are in college, can i survive in the social world if I'm a little shy? i'm also just a little bit insecure because i'm always worried about like my looks and like how other people view me. i wear american eagle and hollister like all the time and i'm still a little worried how other people view me. i'm also wicked shy when it comes to girls lol. i'm just basically asking like how do other shy people go thru the social path?

thanks very much.

Answer 1

Well, you will definitely not be the only new person on campus, so that will make it easier because you are not the only one that is trying to make new friends and feeling out of place.  The cool news is that you will fit right in no matter what- whether you wear the brand name clothes or cheap Wal*Mart clothes, it doesn't matter, you will fit in.  

If you want to make a few close friends with similar interests, join a club on campus.  You can choose from many, many options.  I suggest you join 2: one that is academically related to your major and one that is just for fun.  I also suggest that you do your studying in a student lounge- this will get you noticed on campus- the more people see you, the more likely they are to stop and talk to you.

People of the opposite s*x- they are just people!  Just ask them how their day is going, what classes they're in and how they like it.  Take it from me, there is nothing a girl likes to talk more about then her own self- ask her about herself, appear genuinely interested, and you got a friend of the opposite s*x- simple!

You do not have to be "the big man on campus" but you don't want to be a recluse either.  Be friendly, join clubs, be active, and you'll do just fine!