How do u deal with a stressed mom?

Question

my mom just got out of a relationship.. ever since they broke up all she does is yell and scream and make me do everything... i try to just shut up and do what she asks but its hard and when i see her all stressed out like that i get stressed... sometimes i just wanna leave for a long time... every chance i get to leave the house i take it... sooo it would be great if i got tips or help on how to deal with this problem(:

Answer 1

that's really tough... try encouraging your mom to go out with a friend for a little stress release, it always helps to be able to get things off your chest.

Answer 2

Have a sit down with her and tell her that her yelling isn't helpful and you would still do everything for her if she said it in a nice and calm manner. Tell her that you also understand that she just got out of a relationship, but it is unfair that she takes it out on you and that you suggest she gets help before she does something to really hurt you and/or herself.

Answer 3

First, understand that the stress that your mum and you are having is two separate thing. As you mentioned that your mum just got out of a relationship recently. So the problem would have arise for the recent break off.

Speak to your mum. Express your love and explain to her how much you need her and how much she needs you. Make her a gift, do not buy. Tell her thank you each time she does something for you. Tell her you love her as often as possible.

Let her know how important she is i your life.Make her breakfast, anything to show your love. Need not have to slave to prove your love but by doing little things it helps.

Also remember to tell her you love her.

Answer 4

be nice to youre mother if you want to ease her stressed just give her a big  hug and a kiss and then youre mother will realize that even she is stressed there is one thing that can make her stressed ease.....youre love.......................^_^ keep it up........

Answer 5

In my opinion leaving is not the solution.  You mom needs you and your support in her down times.  Try to understand her shortcomings and help her get over with her past relationship.  She needs you and your presence.

Answer 6

let her know you are there if she needs anything.

make the effort to hear her out, even if she just nags at you about it.

show empathy towards her, when she realizes she's fine - she'll never

forget your help and understanding.

between all that i just said, dont take her abuse - it's not ok if she takes her frusteration out on you.  Let that be known to her, take comfort in your friends but dont give up on her.  only have 1 mom =).

Answer 7

im goin throu almost the same thing, and the most i can do is let my mom vent, and when she needs someone to talk to listn.

Answer 8

Go out with your mom shopping, swimming .etc

Have fun with her make some jokes and make sure she smile or laugh...

Then when both of you are relaxed, ask her what you want to ask her ....and if she dosen't want to tell just keep cool and dont rush things up...just keep going out with her, soon she will ask for your help..

Kid L

Answer 9

You are doing the right thing.  Just stay out of her way for a little while.  Then when things cool down, you could approach her and ask her if she wants to talk.  Give her a little time and thing will get better.

Answer 10

Pray about it and try doing things together that you both enjoy.  

Answer 11

if you leave the house, you leave your mom to solve it on her own; which i think she cannot do.

don't just try to do what she asks, do it with a smile, and make sweet remarks like "mom? want me to massage your back?" or just a simple hug would do.

if that doesn't work, ask your mom to go out and have dinner or even the amusement park. just to scream out those tensed emotions.

good luck kid. ;-)

Answer 12

my mom does the same thing. i just do what she says and ignore her. and i stay in my room alot. and when she needs my help i pretrnd im sleeping :) and compliment her alot. but not to much. she will like that.

Answer 13

sometime when she gets home ask her how her day's been?

just talk to her.  if she doesn't wanna talk leave it alone maybe she'll give in.  all mom's are scary when they're stressed. doesn't matter what they're stressed about.  

it's probably a good idea to always be a step ahead of her.  if u kno she's gunna want u to do something like wash dishes or straighten up, do it before she can tell you to. :)

Answer 14

Be nice...it's hard to find good relationships when you're older, and she probably realizes that.

Answer 15

my mom is like that......

i leave every chance i get...

but try to ignore her and just deal

with it or just walk away when she starts yelling at u.......

Answer 16

Annoy her and push her to the limit till she beats you, call child services, done.

Answer 17

hey, im about 14 years old and my mom recently went through almost the same thing, what your mom needs is some type of emotional support, but u need yours too. what you have to do for the moment is be there for her, do the things she asks but also try to get her to understand how ur feeling, and also talking to the new boyfriend and getting his help wouldnt hurt either if u can. hoped this helped

Answer 18

Keep doing what your doing. Good luck.

Answer 19

LISTEN BECAUSE THIS IS UR MOM U CANT DO ANYTHING ITS UR MOM SO IF SHE REALLY NEEDS HELP  THERE IS SOLUTION TAKE HER TO THEROEPY SORRY FOR ME MISPELL THAT ALL I KNOW.......................................

Answer 20

google: coping with a troubled parent

if and when you have kids........please raise them better than you are being raised.

Answer 21

my mom was the same way when she broke up with her bf and it used 2 get to me so bad that i would cry somtimes and i ended up doing a lot of things i regret. the best thing yo do is to tlk 2 her and let her kno that u understand that she is going thru a lot but it doesnt help to take it out on u, it may seem lame to tlk 2 her but trust me if u dnt u will have wished u did later on.

goodluck hun

Answer 22

Right me back and tell me more about your mom and exactly what she says to you and how you respond to her actions. I'll be able to better help you knowing more than what you've wrote here. If she starts to get physical or starting to hit or hurt you, you need to leave and find shelter with a friend you can trust or even other family members somewhere else.

Answer 23

be the adult and look after her.

Answer 24

Obviously she's taking her frustration over losing the relationship out on you, you're doing good by just doing what she says but also taking care of yourself by leaving the house. Usually when my mom is stressed (which is 24 / 7) I try and stay away from her (yet help her too) as much as possible. Try doing things out of your own volition instead of waiting for her to tell you to do them, then she won't have a reason to talk / yell / scream at you?

Answer 25

start with talking to her how you feel about the way she's treating you but make sure you say it calmly

then try and be really nice to her maybe you could ger make her a present every mum likes something made by their child no matter how old you are

hope this helps

Answer 26

i agree with the weed answer. blaze it up!

Answer 27

Been there ...

1) Separate your feelings of being a daughter with a freaked out mom, from your mature understanding of her personal situation and how she must feel.

2) Develop two different modes of communicating with her.  One is the supportive daughter, who relates to her situation as a woman, and sympathises with her feelings.  Two is the good daughter who feels like she is unfairly bearing the brunt of mom's unhappiness, and wants a little credit for being a good kid.

3) Recognize the turning point in your relationship with your mother, and your own personal growth.  Take control of your life.  Get clear on what momma can and is supposed to do for you, and what you need to do for yourself.  Get over all the "Life's not fair" stuff.  That's a hard lesson!

4) Find some one to support and mentor you, other than mom.  You still need recognition and development.  Maybe you have to look elsewhere for that.  It's OK and normal.  

5) Don't blame!  This is the most important message, my dear.  Mom's not perfect.  Life's not fair.  But, this is a beautiful world.  The fact is, you come in alone and you go out alone.  It's your life.  Make it work!

Good luck!

-Eric

Answer 28

buy her some weed. i know that seems unorthodox but it relaxes people and it can help her with her stress. and it isnt nearly as addictive or bad for you like cigarettes.