How do u deal with low self esteem? ?

Question

im constantly comparing myself to others and im starting 2 really hate myself...i feel as though i just cant measure up 2 where i'd like 2 be...i become really depressed sometimes cuz i wish i'd just be someone else 4 a day...i think i have a sewiouz problem...and i might even suffer from something more than just low-self esteem...is that possible?

Answer 1

honestly low self esteem is all in your head.  You are the only one who can think you are or are not good enough for other people.  Basically my advice to you would be the same advice i got a few years ago from a friend.  You need to fake it until you make it.  Pretend like you have the high self esteem and self worth, think highly of yourself until it's actually what you believe.  If you feel better about yourself you probably won't be as depressed.

Many, many people suffer this way and i don't think it is anything more.  All you need is to be happy with yourself.  (If you want to battle depression i would suggest trying to find a new hobby that you've always wanted to try.)  

Answer 2

I don't.  

Answer 3

there's nothing wrong w/ you...if that's you in the pic, you're cute.

Answer 4

You really need to hate yourself in trying to be the other.  No need to feel guilty for being what you are.  At least then, you are not a second-hand human being - a carbon copy of the other.   Try to improve upon yourself, don't try to improve over others!

Answer 5

the best way to get rid of low slef esteem is looking yourself in a mirror and realize that evrybody is different... that means donot try to be or compare yourself wit anybody, try being your own person, talk to everyone, not only to people you think u have the most in common, but to evryone.. you have to love your self before anyone will love you!.. and also a good personality does the trick

Answer 6

A) Walk it off.

B) Put someone else down to make you feel better about your self for the moment.

C) Read the essay "Self-Reliance" by Ralph Waldo Emerson and meditate on it (seriously on this one.)

D) Challenge yourself to accomplish something and do it. I'd recommend starting small…winning some little battles is always good for morale.

…thats all i got.

Answer 7

there seems to be an underling issue with what you mention, it might be a depression that has not been diagnosed. think about looking fro help. everyone wants to be some else sometimes its a issue of not knowing what you are or where you see yourself in the future,

Answer 8

low self esteem can be a problem but it can also be overcome with time and effort and positive thinking.

Look for ways to see yourself as God created you. As treasure and gem in this world, and a miracle of life.

Depression is something that many of us get. Stress and time can cause many things to happen to us. Sometimes peers and pressures from them can  harm us that way. Sometimes fear is the root of our mess.

Your flesh isn't who you are, It just hold the real you . No one is really beautiful on the outside. As they hide behind make up, perms, implants, face lifts,  or other ways to alter the body. This flesh turns back to dust after death. The real you is the beauty of your soul, your heart, your attitude, Those are the things you keep in the next life with God or where ever you go.

Tell yourself you're awesome, you're terrifc, you're special, you're beautiful, you're smart. That God doesnt make mistakes only we do. He has a special reason for you being created the way you are. Now all you have to do is seek it out.

Take a piece of paper. on one side right all the positive things you see or know about yourself, on the other side write all the negative or bad things about yourself.  Keep the paper showing the positive things  for you to read. Like taped on a mirror or inside a notebook.  Then have one family member and one or two friends do the same thing about you. So you see what the world does about you.  Tell them to be honest.

Then take to heart what they say. As those bad things are what you are going to work on. Ex.  Maybe you don't smile enough, or you always seem hard on yourself.  Do something different. Smile more even if you don't feel like it. Smile are contagious and spread really quick. So others will smile with you. Then if you feel yourself being too hard or negative about yourself. Remember some of the good things your found in yourself and things others see in you. and focus on those.

try writing down the events of your day for a month. To see if there is a pattern.  For each good dow, or reason to smile. place a penny or marble or slip pf paper with a smile on it in a jar, for that month. see how many good things you saw in yourself.  You can write down what those were as you place those objects in the jar. Also reward yourself for every compliment you get , whether just a simple thanks for making someone smile, or about how nice you looked , or for good behavior. All those things are important in recreating and rebuilding your confidence and self respect in your life. By having those things about yourself will give you a strong feeling of self esteem. Try it out. It really does work.

Stop living with the dark clouds over you and bring in the warm sunny days instead. You'll notice a change in others around you as well when you begin the change.

Also what are the things that brought you to your friends. Were they good things or bad. Like do you hang out with  people  that love to ridicule or be mean?  or Do you try to have friends that know what joy and compassion mean?. As our friends are often a reflection of what we think of ourselves.

Answer 9

Would you believe that 99% of the population feels the same as you do?

When you start telling yourself that so and so is much better than you are tell yourself that is only one opinion and you are as great as that person is. Maybe in other areas but you are at least as great.

The biggest mistake that people make in this area is to try to imitate the person they thought was a fantastic person.

This is a trite answer but just be yourself. People know when you are trying to imitate someone or something else and that is when they laugh at you.

The dialog you have with yourself is crucial. You have to start redirecting your thoughts so that they reflect you not someone else. Just remember this "God didn't make any losers" Just people who turned themselves into losers.

Get an education. That will give you much more confidence and you will excel faster

Answer 10

To quote the karate teacher from South Park:

"You rak disaprin. All young children rak disaprin."

This quote is from the movie Shawshank Redemption:

"Anything is possible given enough time and pressure"

Hope this helps.

Answer 11

it can be hard when u have the mind set of comparing yourself to other people to try and get out of that. its difficult, i used to do the same thing. ultimately u have to love yourself, how u get there is another story. you have to learn acceptance of yourself before u can accept others. once u have that mind frame everything is easy but nonethe less you should talk to someone if you dont know what to do. you may suffer from clinical depression and you might want to see a psychiatrist who could prescribe some meds. anyways i meditate and that helps with bad moods so if your feeling down try meditation, its a great way to clear your head.

Answer 12

Everyone is different and has different talents and skills. I wish I could sing, why can't I just get up there on stage and belt it out? I sound like a rooster being strangled. I don't have that talent. I am an artist, my talents lie elsewhere. Now, quit comparing yourself to others, there is no comparison. I guarantee you have traits in you and abilities that no one else can hold a candle to, start magnifying those traits. Love yourself. You are going to be with you for the rest of your life.