How do u feel about adoption?

Question

how would u feel if u found out someone close to u like a sister or a best friend had a baby and gave him/her up for adoption?

Answer 1

I would wonder why she did that inside of ask why some one in her family could not have taken care of baby unti she was ready

Answer 2

I would feel really sad...But it really isn't my business, so I wouldn't ask the person who set the baby for adoption, why they did that.

Answer 3

I am not OK with that but if that person is to young and adoption is the best for the baby....then OK. But just because she didn't' wanted kids then NO I'm not OK with it.

Answer 4

i think it would all depend on the circumstances surrounding the adoption.  i can't tell you how i'd feel withouth further information.

but what i would do since this would be a close friend of mine, is simply be a friend and listen and support them in however they felt about it.

Answer 5

Not too bad. I'm adopted. I'm actually very grateful that my biological mother gave me up for adoption. Because of her, I have a very loving family who've always loved me and supported me. I'm all for adoption, as long as the biological parents don't mind. Maybe they could have it as an "Open Adoption" where the biological parents can keep in touch with the child. That's what my parents set up..

Answer 6

You should support them for making the right decision. Would you rather them had an abortion?

Answer 7

Depends... If the person was young and just was not able to be a mother than I would be sad but I would support them.... Now if they were say 24 had a good job and just didn't want to loose freedom then I would be mad at them and I would hurt for the child!!!!

Answer 8

i'd be glad they decided to go with adoption rather than abortion, but it would still be sad to know that someone you really cared about had someone who was a big part of them somewhere in the world and they couldn't see them.

Answer 9

Adoption is better then having an abortion!

Answer 10

That's a very hard decision to make - but I admire her for chosing life for her baby - and giving the child - and his/her new parents - a chance at life. Love your sister - or best friend - or yourself - for who they are.

Answer 11

At least she wasn't so selfish that she kept a child she didn't want or couldn't take care of. I would be very proud of her.

Answer 12

depends on the situation.  we can't have a blanket answer because people are unique individuals.

is she 14? has she graduated school? does she have a support network? does she have other kids that she's struggling to raise? drug or alcohol problem? responsible? finished high school? father involved? resources available to rear the child?

Answer 13

I have two friends who gave their babies up over twenty years ago.  I respect  them both tremendously.  Neither were coerced.  Both were college students. They made choices they felt were best for their children.  These decisions did come with great pain. In spite of this, both feel they made the right decisions.   If anything, knowing this increases my respect for them as I know they live with this decision every day of their lives.  Adoption or not, they are two of the most wonderful women I know.

Answer 14

Some people aren't ready to parents yet or shouldn't be parents period.  It is a personal choice and I think that we should stick by them because it's the hardest decision they'll ever make.

Answer 15

I think it is a good thing. The parents of this child obviously thought they couldnt give them a good life and did what was best for them. Also, there are a lot of people who are unable to have children and this is a wonderful way for them and the child to have a family.

Answer 16

It really depends on the situation. If they are giving the baby up for adoption because they think it would be in the best interest of the baby then I have no problem with it. If they are using it to dodge responsibility then I would be a little angry. Now think of it from this point of view... What if you are the couple trying to adopt a child, who have been trying for years and nothing is happening, have recieved help and have been told that they can't have children. Now how do you feel about adoption?

Answer 17

I would have no problem with it but apparently some do. I was adopted and trust me ALOT of trouble can come if the mother gives the child out for adoption and the dad doesn't like it.

Answer 18

I think adoption is awesome!  Especially for someone considering abortion or if they think it would be a better option than raising a child.  There are so many deserving parents that can't have children and you would be blessing them :)

As for knowing someone that gave a baby up...I would feel for them.  It is very hard giving a baby away.  Its not always a parent "not wanting" their child, but it's what they think is best.  You wouldn't love that parent any different, but may have more respect for them.

Answer 19

i dont like that and i dont support it... because i think if ur 2 young to have a baby then dont do anything stupid 2 get one and give it up... this hurts me a lot wen i see people doing that.. if u dont want a baby then make sure u dont mess up and get pregnant.        its called   protection  people!!!!!!!!!

Answer 20

It shouldn't be about how I would feel it's shoud be about how they would feel.  If it were my sister or best friend I would be supportive of THEIR decision and listen if they wanted to talk.

Answer 21

I'd feel very sad that she had to lose her child.

Answer 22

I would feel sad that she had to be in a position to have to make that desision....but then think of her as an unselfish person for making that desision. I would hope that it was the best thing to do for the baby.  It can't be an easy think for someone to do.

Answer 23

I would think they made one of the hardest decisions of their lives. I would also thank them very much for having the guts it took to do so. I'm adopted and thank my birth mother everyday for being so very brave and allowing me to be raised by wonderful people. Thank you Mom where ever you are.

Answer 24

i'd be very sad. but my friends are too young really

to take care. we're all in middle school.

but i think it would be a great choice for the child

to have a fufilling and successful life.

Answer 25

Adoption is a very serious matter. People have to get a lot of care before adoption. Search a lawyer for more informations.