How do u find out who u r?

Question

Are people born with their personalities inside them, ....or do u choose who u wanna be? I used 2 be really shy and quiet and i was really good at studies and stuff, but i was completley anti-social...then i decided that i don't really like that, so i started 2 lose some of the shyness and start 2 interact with people...as in saying Hi and smile......but i didn't like that either so i totally lost the shyness, and the anti-socialness,but i'm afraid i've also lost feelings,i became really mean..selfish....&sarcastic and i hate being like this, i have no idea who i am,but something is telling me that i'm certainly not mean.........what is going on with me?

Answer 1

You sound exactly like me a few years ago - I went through the exact same changes in my personality (shy to social to shy again to sarcastic...). It takes time to change your personality, but it is definitely malleable. If you don't like who you're turning into, just be patient with yourself and work on acting like who you want to be on the outside (like if you want to be less sarcastic, smile and compliment people more). Your attitude will change, too, eventually.

FYI: These days I'm still very shy and good with my studies, but I can relate better to other people than before and turn off my sarcastic sense of humor when it's appropriate. Everything will even out for you, too.

Answer 2

Just wanted to let you know that there are a lot of people feeling this way. It seems very contagious.

It's hard for me to act nice to people when it feels so fake.

The more I get to know people the less I like them.

But the more I avoid them, the harder it is to change.

Answer 3

im kinda anti-social and shy to

i dont really like being around alot of ppl i mostly like staying to myself

i want to change my personality and be more outgoing but its kind of a challenge for me cause i been this way for a long period of time

but i guess a start would be if you hang around ppl who have the personalities of the one you really want

Answer 4

Do this:

Everyday, starting tonight, right before you go to bed go to a mirror and look deep into your eyes(not at your eyes) and tell your Self "I love you unconditionally, and I honor who you are and what you are".

Also do the same process as soon as you wake up.

Your Life will have shifted within 30 days.

It works!

Answer 5

Sounds like a bad case of hormones  ...they will stabilize in time