How do u handle children lying?

Question

There's an 11 yr old, 6th grader, who has a tough time getting through routine tests/ exams. The parents & teachers r equally concerned & put in effort to make that kid do something while he still fails.

Teachers say he's a daydreamer. Parents stress alot to pass bt in vain.

To make te matters worse he lies to his parents bout his results. He even started lying bout other matters.

How do u handle this?

Answer 1

they should talk to their child heart to heart and tell to him that lying is not good and they should tell him the consequences of lying.....one talk is not enough parents should monitor if their child is improving!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Should have addressed it sooner!  Needs lots of support and a healthy sporting life with kids his age! Karate or Tae-Kwon-Do.

Answer 3

I make the punishments worst. So my son knows we could have handled things better if you were honest, but lying is a whole different level, and no we will absolutely not tolerate it.

Answer 4

A good old-fashion spanking.

Nothing more, nothing less.

Answer 5

Call him on it.  Point out the lies directly and ask him to explain his actions (you said this but the paper says this) etc.  Make it so that he'll trip himself up in his own lies.  he'll soon learn that lying will cause the opposite effect he's looking for.

Answer 6

Punish him more.

Answer 7

thats a tough one i wouldnt know how to handel it! my 6 yr old lies to me frm time to time n its stressful.

Answer 8

Whenever I catch my daughter lying to me, I punish her. I react as if she just told me to go **** myself. It's a lack of respect, and she needs to accept the truth, even if it gets her in trouble. Sounds like the kid's parents need to relax a little, and tutor their child. A stressful parent makes a stressful child, and a stressful child has a much harder time learning. They might be better if they reacted more positively to him failing a test. Step back and troubleshoot why he failed. He failed because he doesn't remember his multiplication tables? Well let's sit down, relax, and have fun studying them with him. (It's good bonding time anyway.)

Answer 9

If there's a lot of pressure at home to get good grades, I can understand why he would lie.  I think the student needs evaluated for a learning disability.  There are so many different kinds.  It's possible that he studied enough, learned all the material, and still couldn't pass the test...because the problem may come when he sits down to take it.  I would hate to blame the child for not trying hard enough when it's possible there is more to it than that.

Answer 10

well, too much pressure causes him to lie about his grades to stay away from trouble. he wouldnt tell ya he failed when he knows hes gonna get his *** whooped. try talking to him a bit more. like real heart to heart talk not like this is good for your future lame usual stuff. motivate him with presents. tell him if he passes,he can get something he likes. tell his teachers to chill out a lil on him, but keep reminding him about his homework.

his homework is important.try focusing on his homework with less stress put on him.  like telling him to do his homework for an hour,then 30 minutes tv or video games,then another hour of study/homework. but make sure he doesnt daydream while he is supposed to be studying.