How do u let go of a man u love?

Question

well i was in love with this guy,and was together for five years well it feel apart.he was my fist i ever sleep with.we have both moved on but i still see him around all the time,but the feeling we had for one another are still their,i still love him and he still loves me.i just cant seem to get over him and we have been apart for 7 years.its like every time i see him i get that mushy schoolgirl feeling like my heart just want to race so fast.but like i said we both are married now to different people so please can someone tell me how to let go?

Answer 1

c'mon girl,try hard to convince yourself it's over.both of you fell in love,lived together for sometime,fell apart & though the feeling will always be there looks like what you had was'nt meant to be.so go on,convince yourself(even if it means talking to yourself in front of the mirror & brainwashing yourself that he's history,you're a wonderful person,you deserve someone whom you can be truly happy & that it's time to let go).soon you'll be surprised as to why you even kept all of those left-over feelings in the 1st place.

Answer 2

grow up and move on

or

try and get back together

Answer 3

Tell your husband you have something to share with him as it is taking you out of your marriage with him. Ask that he really just listens and trust you. Then tell him. He already knows something is askew anyway. Here is the deal....with being straight your feelings for the other dude will instantly disappear and you will start laughing how silly it all is. Your husband may even thank you for allowing him to save the ship just by listening. Do not put yourself down for having those feelings as they are feelings that you have had.  

Answer 4

I don't think we ever truly let go of our first loves, but you do have to find a way to accept things are different now and that things have a way of working themselves out and if you were meant to be together then you would be

Answer 5

Do you love your husband?

You should strive to make that love grow, instead of focusing on the guy that broke your heart.

You've got your love interest in the wrong place.  

You make a decision to make the love for your husband become more real and true.  You also make the decision to never again consider the other guy as an option or a regret - it didn't work then and it won't work, not now, not ever, especially while both of you are married individuals.

Edit:

Life isn't a fairy tale - nothing is ever "meant to be."  You make your own life, your own goals, and your own path.  If you want to be faithful, YOU WILL not ever look at that other man again.

If you want to live a life that's full of regret, remorse, and infidelity...continue the way you're being.  You'll only feel worse and more desperate as time moves on.  Meanwhile, your husband and family will suffer from your lack of focus on them.

Answer 6

Time and God

Answer 7

If you truely love someone say a prayer for him because one day you will see him in heaven. In heaven there is no marriage and you get to meet the people that u have loved in your life. Just say a prayer and let him go.  

Answer 8

just forget him