My husband and I moved in US (from Europe) for 2 years (he got a temporary 2-year-job). Our 10yo daughter (Siana) and our 9yo son (Martin) just started school here. They recently complain that at school they study things they have studied already in Europe (plus, they say these things were studied 2 years ago!). They are bored in class, have 100% on all tests and do their homework for 10 minutes. They also complain about something which made me angry. They say the teachers don't take them seriously, people treat them as little kids and nobody takes them seriously at all.
We have raised Siana and Martin the way all kids are being raised in Europe. The differences from US culture are that they were out of diapers before their first birthday, they have been left alone at home for hours after school (both I and my husband worked all day) and learned how to take care of themselves. We also take them seriously always. They are smart kids and you can talk with them about everything. They were raised that way so now they can be treated like adults. Both of them are responsible and mature (quite more mature than the kids in their classes, as they describe me what do these kids talk about and what do they like to do). In europe we raise our children like people, we treat them like people as soon as they start talking and making sensible sentences. We discuss problems with them, ask for their opinion. They are not treated as "little kids" but as "members of the family", equal to anyone. And they complain that here people treat them like babies. How can I help them and what can I do to improve that situation? Should we consider putting them in upper grades? Siana is in 5th grade now and Martin is in 4th. they study things kids study in 3rd and 2nd grade in Europe. I asked them if they would like to go in upper grade and they agreed hoping I would do that. Should I do that? And should they go 1 upper or 2 upper grades? Also, how do we get people treat them normal, not like babies? I really see that attitude. In Europe people respect kids like adults. Here I see no respect to their opinion or ideas. what do we do?
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