How do we prepare my brother for finding out the gender of his baby?

Question

My brothers girlfriend is currently 15 weeks pregnant and my brother is abosoloutley certain that the baby is going to be a boy.

He's alsways referring to his "son" and has already started planning the poor things ( male dominated ) life.

He's constantly looking at names for baby boys but he will not chose a girls name. When one is suggest he displays little/no interest.

When he goes into a baby shop, he instantly goes straight over the all the blue ( boy ) things. He comments that his "son" isn't going to want anything pink. He even told the sales assistant that they were expecting a boy.

He's got the baby a T-shirt saying Daddys Boy ( which his girlfriend doesn't know about )

He's obsessed.

Answer 1

Sounds like he needs to get a grip and realize there are approximately equal odds that it could be male or female. If he's so determined it has to be a boy, then maybe he needs to learn how to relate to girls. Sounds to me he just doesn't know how to think outside the "boybox" in his head. I have one child, a daughter, and she is the brightest point of light in my sky. I couldn't have asked for a more perfect little person to be added to my life.

Answer 2

Wow.  Regardless of the true s*x of the baby, I certainly hope he grows up before the child is born.

Answer 3

My husband was convinced that our first baby was a boy and wouldn't really talk about much else. I knew in his heart of hearts that he wouldn't care either way but it was funny- he even went so far as to go into Paint and put a 'winky' on the ultrasound picture we had (we didn't find out the s*x so he was just messing around).

When our daughter arrived it didn't matter what s*x she was...she was healthy and she was part of him. I'm guessing this will be the same with your brother if they have a girl. If he's responsible and mature enough to be having a baby he should be able to see that no matter what s*x the baby is it is a blessing to have one that is healthy given all the potential issues that can occur.

Little girls do have a way of melting daddies hearts...

Best of luck to your brother!

Answer 4

lol if it turns out to be a girl, I'm sure he'll love her anyways. He'll probably just turn her into a tomboy

Answer 5

Just tel him the baby's going to look dumb in that Daddy' s boy t shirt if it's a girl..

Answer 6

Well he will learn a lesson when he finds out its a girl..lol.. Hopefully it will be a boy since he's already spent money on boy stuff. My brother and sister in law are so hoping for a boy this time and my brother swears he sees a p***s off a 5 week u/s...lol...I know silly huh.. My sister in law has already bought boy stuff and she is only 6 weeks pregnant. I do not say anything because its their money so let them do what they please. All I've said is "well if its a girl I guess you could make her a tom boy."

Good luck to your brother and his girlfriend.

Answer 7

All men want to see themselves in their children and it's natural for guys to want their 1st born to be a son.

My husband had to wait 3 times before he ever got his! We have 3 daughters and 1 son.

If they have a boy - great! If they have a girl - it might be even better! Girls really do gravitate to their dads - especially for emotional support. ALL our girls are Daddy's Girls and I wouldn't want it any other way! We have our girl time, but they need him and they have great relationships. He and Joel are very bonded too because we outnumber them so greatly, they need each other to cope with the overabundance of estrogen in this house - LOL!

Explain boys are wonderful, but if they have a girl - it's one of the greatest relationships he could ever have. Also, if he is being this immature, maybe he isn't ready to be a parent? He needs to grow up.

Answer 8

dont worry, even if its a girl, he will love her alot, who knows if he will even more than a boy, daddys tend to be more protective to girls than boys!

Answer 9

i think deep down he knows there's a chance that its a girl. but if he hopes and acts like its a boy he might get one. thats how my dad was with me, he always called me his son, and was convinced i was a boy.....they didn't find out i was girl tell i was born..... any way when i came he was so happy to have a healthy baby that it didn't matter to him. your brother will be fine, and i am sure will love having a daddy's girl. all guys on some level want sons to fallow in there footsteps. what an ego boost to have a miniature you....

Answer 10

I hope for his sake and the baby that it's a boy.  However, he has time still.  The obsession may wear off.

Answer 11

What is he, 16? He needs to grow up... Don't prepare him; let him find out, and whatever will be, will be... He may get his son; if not, he gets a lesson that there are some things you can't control.