How do you REALLY feel about you parents?

Question

Other than the feelings of love and all that, what do you criticize your parents about? What do you hate or not like about them or the things they've done?

I always felt that my parents made a mistake by having me, I always wonder why they had me. I just feel that it was stupid of them to have me. I don't know why I feel this way. Anyone feels the same?

Answer 1

being mean to me, lol. they talk too much, like repeat.

Answer 2

My dad is a deadbeat...I don't like him at all. I love my mom to death!!

Answer 3

No, It's the pleasure of god. Either you hate them or like them. They love you even if YOU hate them. I love my parents, but at times when they get bossy. I call them names in my mind like, I hate daddy he's such a big meanie bossy butt, or something like that when he orders me to sit up while playing the laptop. I love sitting and I love laying what's the problem! Lol. My parents havent really done anything to make me want to run away and you have to stop thinking that it was a mistake you were born. You're lucky to be born. Think about the kids who were about to be born but died because they're mother died of something. How would you feel if RIGHT after you were born, Your mother died..

Answer 4

I miss my parents terribly.  My mom died in June of this year, and my dad's been gone almost 10 years.  I don't even like to think about the things I used to hate and criticize them about now, because it just doesn't matter any more.

I'm sure what you're feeling is a part of the overall teenage angst you feel on a daily basis.  You probably don't need a shrink.  You just need to get out of your teens.

Answer 5

you need to see a shrink honestly

Answer 6

MY PARENTS HAVE BEEN HATING EACH OTHER SINCE THE DAY THAT THEY MARRIED...MY MUM HAS AN ARRANGED MARRAIGE...

I GREW UP WITHOUT A DAD MOST OF MY LIFE...I MET MY DAD LAST YEAR(AFTER 15 YEARS,HE BLAMED MY MUM 4 EVERYTHING WHEN IT WAS ALL HIS FAULT)...THAT b*****d MARRIED 2ND TIME JUST TO TAKE REVENGE ON MY DAD(THATS WHY I SHOUT FOUL WORDS,ETC AT HIM)

AS FAR AS IM CONCERNED MY DAD DIED....I USE MY DAD AS AN ATM NOW......

I GOT NO RESPECT 4 THAT b*****d COZ HES SUCH A COWARD & BLAMES & TALKS **** ABOUT MY FAMILY.....I HATE THAT!!!! HE EXPECTS ME TO BE THIN BUT I WONT CHNGE MYSELF 4 ANYONE NOT EVEN MY OWN DAD.....

I HATE MY PARENTS,ITS A COM[PLICATED REALTIONSHIP THATR MY PARENTS & ME GOT....IM 21 BUT I WISH AT TIMES THAT I NEVER HAD A FAMILY....

I HATE THEM AT THE SAME TIME I LOVE THEM ALOT....

Answer 7

My mom is okay...I don't like my father...because he felt like he can ruin my life by doing something and I don't want anythign to do with him again.  Even though he is my father, he has no right to invade on some things in your life.  THere are some things that are mean't to be kept private and don't have to be known.  There are some thigns that are wrong and is against the law and theres a reason for that.  If your going to have kids...dont' take advantage of them...because they are your kids.

Answer 8

i am mad at my dad for not a least trying to stay out of jail for me.hes never been there on my birthday.one time he was but he was in jail.never seen me get an award.never taught me how to play any kind of sport.(learned from school).i personally don't feel like he is a part of my life.but mom a has always been there for everything(smile)

Answer 9

yahoo answers might not be the place to talk about this type of feelings- you might wanna turn around and talk to your parents

if you feel that way that strongly

i love my parents to death- and no one is perfect even your parents. even though i fight a lot w/ them and half the time dont see eye to eye....i love them

i dont hold grudges and neither should you or anybody

peace and love

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Answer 10

My brother & I went through "h**l" growing up! We had experienced

both physical & verbal abuse from our mom. Dad, I think, knew about it

in some way or another but refused to get involved. He was verbally

abused by her at times also. I can remember them always fighting &

arguing alot. My brother & I made a promise to each other when we

were kids that if we had families of our own, we would show our kids alot of love & attention that we never recieved & that the only hitting that was ever to be done was a spanking if the kids deserved it enough.

I can remember on several occasions mom telling us boys, "I wish that you were never born"!! Verbal abuse hurts just as bad or worse

than the physical abuse. I HATE child abusers to this day!

Answer 11

maybee your going through some hard times in the family so u deal with it by saying they shouldnt of had you im sure other people do that too

good luck with everything

Answer 12

alright some of these people have you mixed up. dont feel that way be happy that you were born and dont ever feel like a mistake, my mom told me she cried when she was having twins (im a twin) and i was mad lol but i guess it was overwhelming. my parents obviously havent been the best of parents, i mean there isnt a guide to it, but they tried,,, atleast most of the time. my dad used to have a really bad temper and take it out on us kids verbally/physically. a part of me will never forgive him for that, even thoguh i was so young it still feels fresh. my mom never stuck up for us either which was awfully depressing. but i realize now that they tried to make everything the best it could be, yeah i wish they had gone about some things differently, but the past is the past. i agree with the other girl saying how her mom just repeats herself; that is exactly what my mom does it gets so d**n annoying!  

Answer 13

i think my parents r fine

answer mine? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 14

i don't think you do love your parents but you try to convince your self you do

i'd be really interested in your answer to my question if you can check it out, you might find it interesting to... other ppl plz answer 2

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Answer 15

no i dont feel like that. but i do feel that my parents could of done better but then thats how we learn because any mistakes ur parents make u dont make yourself there is obviously a reason why u feel like this do u feel they havnt got time 4 u cause even at 23 u still need 2 b noticed , or is it just how u feel and u cant control it  

Answer 16

I'm sorry to hear that... my parents are great! :)

Answer 17

I look like my parents, physically and in every way. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I always think that people who hate their parents (even if they have valid reasons to hate them), are self-hating. They hate their own genetics and DNA, what made them. Even though I'm so incredibly different from my parents, I'm also exactly the same. My personality is probably 90% the same as my father's, even though we have different opinions about everything. My cousin who hates his dad & is estranged from him, probably has 95% of his father's personality, ironically.

Answer 18

I feel attatched to my mother. Whats the point in being attached because it just erases YOUR identity? So  I don't abide by her wants and dreams for me, even if I think she was once everything in my life.. Because if I don't I can't invent myself the way I want

Mostly I feel how much I trusted in her when I was really young, but once I looked at her, I realized she is just a delusion. How can I only believe everything she does unless I force myself to. And I can't sell myself out like that.

These are some lyrics from Circa Survive that make sense to me in

this way.. Sorry for having such a goddamn long answer Ha

"It starts out like a season in reverse"

In reference to how when I decided to question my faith, I realize how different and backwards my mother is from what I once thought.

"A way to set your mind above and over words"

Means forgetting what I've been told, and actually analyzing the situation for myself

"Attached means identity erases things, so how can we record?"

Meaning that when I formed a relationship with her, I didn't choose who I was or how I lived my life. I was told how to. So in what sense would I be alive?

"Distress call code word is I wanna live"

Brilliant line; It means once I've realized how she prevents me from living life to the fullest I panic to live the way I was really meant to