How do you act when you meet an "internet" date for the first time?

Question

Is it me or do other people have problems with chemistry when finally meeting someone in person, after meeting them from the internet?

I've been on many dates (v.few resolved into long term R/S) where I would meet a guy for coffee, dinner, etc. and do the whole "Tell me about yourself" routine. This sounds like the standard thing everyone online says to do right? Just get to know them, ask about common interests, background, family, etc. and then see if it goes to a 2nd date? Well.. it seems like almost all of them fizzle out just after that first one.. either: 1.) The well... more interesting/handsome guys seem to get bored and bow out after an hour or two or 2.) I wouldn't be into the guy and have to eventually break it off with them.. usually lack of spark/interest would be it.

Is this normal for internet dating? Like how am I supposed to behave? I always try to be myself, but am I being too serious and I'm supposed to be fun, flirty, outgoing? Do u have any tips? Thanks.

Answer 1

I dont know if this will work for you.

but I had this internet date a little over a year ago.

I picked her up and we went straight to a motel. right after we got in the room I took my pants off and things took off from their.

she was a little shy but so was I.  

she has moved in and I asked her to marry me and she said yes..

  this might not work for you but its worth a try right.

Answer 2

In my opinion, meeting people on the Internet is NOT the way to go. It's not real dating. If you're having trouble with chemistry, it's probably because you're meeting these guys online instead of in real life.

Answer 3

There is not much else for you to do except go to a motel like someone else said.  But I think that can be dangerous (especially when you first meet them...), so I would suggest keep trying and meeting new people.  It is harder to tell what a person is like online, so that usually means you have to date more to find the right one.  Don't limit yourself to only online guys, but you don't have to give up on them.  From the way it sounds, you just haven't found a guy yet....it'll work out in the end if you just be yourself, but try to be fun too.  Hope this helps! :)

Answer 4

I've tried the internet dating thing and believe me, it is filled with men who are looking for a s*x, s*x, and s*x.

There are also some crazy folks on there, too.

If I were you, I'd try another way to meet people.

Answer 5

meet real people in person not on the internet thats probably why your not having much luck!!!

Answer 6

I think this is a common experience... it seems that men have a heightened expectation that there will be this great chemistry and they'll know in an instant if you're "the one."

How unrealistic. *

I am just myself (though usually a bit nervous!) on a first date. If they don't like me, their loss. It's a little bite out of my schedule, but hey, there are plenty more where they came from.

* By the way, this doesn't seem to improve as they get older.