How do you ask for money that's owed in return when having given too much?

Question

Okay a "friend" was going to the store yesterday and asked if there was anything she could pick up for me. I asked if she would pick up a bottle of wine. I gave her $30.00, $10.00 that I owed her for salmon she picked up for me the other day and $20.00 for the wine. When she came back, I asked what kind she got and she said she picked up a variety and I could choose. That changed quickly when she brought me a bottle of the same type of wine I had last weekend and said she saw me with that. I said thanks and left it at that for the moment since I was a little taken aback by what occurred. I knew the wine she gave me was not $20.00, $16.00 tops. This morning I saw her and asked how much the wine was. The following is the response I got via email:

"I don't know how much that wine cost me...When I go back to the liquor store I will check...... Money is always on your mind?!!! I find this very peculiar since I am most generous to you .... No worries, just personality, manners and background differences I suppose."

An aside, this person has a dog that she calls me to let her out all the time or take her for a walk. I've only refused once in the past 5 years. Am I crazy thinking that I'm generous with my time and her remarks are an insult to me? How would you respond?

This may seem like a given to simply ask how much something c

Answer 1

Well with the price of gas, I say you got off cheap.

Answer 2

well it is only 4.00 BUT it was your change and she should have given it to you..she was going to the store anyway so its not like she went out of her way and i think the reason she got so snippy about the cost is because she knows  very well how much it cost and she knows she kept your change...even if you were going to give it to her anyways for picking up the wine for you that should have been your option she should not have taken it upon herself to keep the change...

Answer 3

its hard to tell she could easily be lying and playing dumb or she could really not know

but with the dog thing, it goes agaisnt her so i feel she's lying and being a pain

Answer 4

You are getting into a contest who does more in this relationship.  You can't be friends and keep count of everything.

Now you know not to give her money to buy something for you.  Don't do that again.

Friends do things for each other.  True friends don't keep count.  If you can't stop counting who's ahead, then find a new friend.

Answer 5

I don't know why you're getting in a state over $4.00!! It isn't worth falling out over.