How do you avoid this kind of people?

Question

i have a friend who likes to put me down all the time. Actually, she is studying pharmacy , and I am doing accounting. she thinks that accounting is for dumb. she never remembers what I am studying and asks me stupid questions like" do you guys have masters program in accounting? I don't know she is being stupid or doing it intentionally, but it is really annoying sometimes. Please tell me what to do.

Answer 1

A real friend wouldn't cut you down like that!...Kick her a@@ to the curb!

Answer 2

Well, I had a friend too that made it a point to put me down while we hanging out with groups of people. It really hurt my feelings and we're not friends today.

Be honest with your feelings and if they don't respect that then...perhaps you should avoid them for a short while.

People shouldn't make fun of you for you career choices. Accounting is just as valid as pharmaceuticals. Last time I checked, accounting required a lot of complex mathematical course-work and not reserved for "dumb people."

Answer 3

She's NOT your friend. Friends don't make their friends feel bad. You need to lose her and find some new friends.

Answer 4

Simply ask her to stop posing as your friend.If she quits, good riddance or then she will never pass snide remarks again.Best wishes

Answer 5

She is trying to belittle you, she's not asking questions like that because she's curious.  Do you really need a friend like this?  I personally would have nothing to do with someone like that.  You are bettering yourself and your future by getting a degree.  Just because it doesn't fit her standards, this should not interfere with your life.  Disregard what she says and spend no time with her.

Answer 6

my bro is an accountant and he does very well.

i mean she makes up tablets, mmmmmm

Answer 7

bail on them.  people who tend to bring others down aren't really worth hanging out with, dontcha think?

Answer 8

Umm, hello that ain't a friend. I had a  friend all the way from 7th grade to first year of college who was exactly like that she was studying pharmacy and I business. I realized that studies is not the only thing that she has been putting me down in, I love business soon it will be my life, so I quit being friends with her and I am happy I did because I feel better now, there isn't anyone putting me down and I can reach the highest level. Look people like that are not good influence, trust me if you want to live in peace (shanti) dump them because obviously they don't care about you, and will not support you in the near future.

Answer 9

find a new friend.

Accounting is not for the dumb, just people that lack the charisma to be actuaries.

Answer 10

Grow a backbone and tell her to shut her face, or at the very least, say it nicely (such as, "you know, I get the feeling you are discounting my choice of profession in order to make yourself feel better about your own inadequacies, and it frustrates me a little.  For the sake of our friendship I hope I'm wrong, and since I know you like I do, I'm sure I am wrong, but I thought you should know how I feel.").  

People like that only feed off of weak people.  You will never see someone like her try c**p like that with someone who is strong willed and confident, so stop letting yourself be steamrolled.

Answer 11

do something good which really teach her a lesson.

Answer 12

Regardless of whether she is doing it intentionally or not, your friend is passing judgement. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and if she had just told you once that she didn't think accounting was right for you and then moved on, there wouldn't be an issue. But she's harping, which means she is past the point of just stating her opinion - she has begun to  express negative energy.

There are really only two ways to fix this problem. One is to be patient with her and realize that she is only judging in you the things she feels insecure about in herself (it might even be possible that she fears what SHE is doing is "dumb," because of judgement passed onto her from someone else). In order to do this successfully, however, you also have to come to terms with why her opinion of your specialization bothers YOU so much. Anyone who truly feels what they are doing is right for them will not pay much attention to the P.O.V.'s of others. In short, you need to acknowledge the insecurities in your friend and in yourself so that this trend will stop. When you really attain confidence in your area of study, your friend's remarks will lose all their power over you. And that will either prompt your friend to drop her negative attitude, or to avoid you altogether (in which case, you would certainly learn who your real friends are).

The second approach (and the one I'm sure you've read in other responses to this post) is to cut ties with this girl yourself. And while this is direct, it has its downsides. For one, it isn't easy to sever a relationship especially if it is a long standing one, and there are inevitably going to be hurt feelings after the storm. For another, you won't be addressing the root of the issue: that both of you are on some level unsure of the academic paths you've chosen to take. Once you both understand that everyone has to make their own decisions - go down their own path - as part of their personal growth in this life, your problems will miraculously evaporate. Good luck! I hope this helps.

Answer 13

Find a new friend. I'm thinking that she is very jealous of you. You are prettier, better personality, and have more friends. She is trying to drag you down. Dump her and find a new friend.

Answer 14

Wrte everything down and come up with some quick comebacks... use the situation to practise and keep yourself from taking it personally the person has a shortage of something like self esteem or something.

There will be many people in your life like this so it can make you stronger... just let it glide over your back.

Two things otherwise you can do....

ONe is ask her WHY she is aksing or etc.  Why do you ask are you interested in signing up.. the counselors' name is......

or when she makes semi snide remark ask what do youmean (act dumb) ... what do you mean by that. OH you mean XXXX and that will call her on it and make her feel stupid.  

If nothing else she will learn from the experience to unless she just thinks you're being ***beochy.

Good luck, I would just count it as early training for survival on the job with nasty co-workers.

Answer 15

ok yeah i know that scenario well tell her very nicely that to do like that all the time as habit isnmt very nice quality to have in life putting peope down -

Answer 16

I was once told by my Mother that people with simple minds make simple comments and it has always helped me.  It sounds like your "friend" is one of those people.  Your degree is just as worthy as hers. God doesn't judge so who made her judge and juror?  People who are unhappy often want others to feel as miserable and awful as they do and maybe her "studies" are a bit too much for her or perhaps she truthfully isn't as happy with her choice of her studies as she says.  It isn't you...it is her.  Ignore her....what she wants is for you to feed into her negativity and to be as unhappy as she is.  Be you, do you.  Ignore her.  She'll get the hint and sooner or later she'll stop!!  Good luck in your studies!!!

Peace & Love :)

Answer 17

since teh person is afriend we can avoid them.but

if it happes to some relative what we have to do.

you can avoid her because it is a friend.

but if it is relative even if it is elder to you stand boldly.

Answer 18

The same thing happened to a friend of mine.  She told her friends one day "I like hanging out with you guys b/c you treat me like a friend and I feel comfortable here.  When you talk like that, it kinda kills that fun and comfort".  They stopped.  If they don't, they are not friends.

Answer 19

first you need to avoid people like her and you shouldnt care what she says shes hatin on you, i know you have to be very smart for what your doing and have school. don't let people like her get in the way of your career or emotions. if you care what people think all your life you won't get no where,u dig?a friend will always encourage you not judge u or put u down..keep ur head up and **** what people think its your life not hers

Answer 20

what are your options? tell her to go away, or don,t come around yourself,    there is a person who frequently gets on my nerves,i have told this person four times not to come around, i feel sorry for you if she is doing it on purpose, i hope you give her the business, people do these kinds of things, it is pretty ignorant, i am surprised you haven,t commented or looked askance,   one does not exist without the other, does it??? you do know this??    sometimes just don,t answer her . But as you say, find the opportunities to avoid her, you don,t need her wasting your time, which she might intentionally doing,

Answer 21

some people think its funny , they dont realize it that it can hurt others, let her know that its not funny for u and u get angry, if she still doesnt listen avoid her for sometime , she'll get the point! it she doesnt then its not worth it.

Answer 22

Just don't go around her.

If she is a steadfast friend and putting you down is only occasional, you can tolerate it and continue to be around her.

I guess she doesn't realize that the math in accounting is real math, not just plus and minus single digit numbers.

If it gets really irritating, tell her off in a nice way and give her one more chance.

I was an elementary education major.  You can imagine what some of the other people said to me when I was in college.  And, yes, there is a Master's in elementary education.

Answer 23

first thing, i think accounting is better thn what she is doing...

lol

now, back to the problem..well shes not really your freind, because if she was she would support you, not treat you like dirt...

now,

what you should do is

talk to her, and tell her how you feel, and then see how she acts for a couple of days, if shes still mean, or stilll says dumb stuff to you, then just say that :

''you know what, i dont need a freind like you,. i even told you my problem, but u still wouldent change, i dont really think that ur a good freind and this friendship cant go any further so lets end it here, (name,) i dont wanto be your freind anymore!!!!!''