How do you become happier in yourself?

Question

I feel like I'm in a bubble right now and everything has been stressing me out. I realise that I am in part (however big or small that may be) responsible for how everything is making me feel. I want to become more content with myself and be able to forgive myself for the things I hate about myself. I want to gain more confidence and be more comfortable in different situations instead of shying away from everything. I want to be happier in myself so I can be stronger and cope with things as they are thrown at me instead of retreating into myself and being negative. How can I do this? I just feel so low and I hate myself - I want to change this. Any advice?

Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

I think everyone has dealt with these feelings at some point in their lives. The big thing to consider is how much and how often you feel this way. It's very true that we are our own worst critics, so try to be gentle with yourself and remember that you're human and imperfect just like the rest of us! :) Try to relax and let go of your mistakes/negative outlooks and channel that energy into something positive for your life... workout, cultivate your relationships with others, take up a hobby you love, get out in nature, so on. The best way to feel happier is to externalize... focusing on other people and activities allows you to be in the moment and outside of your head! A great book I would recommend is "The Spontaneous Healing of Belief" -- it's all about how we manifest everything in our reality (good and bad) through the power of our thoughts and our inner dialog. We are what we think. Good luck! :)  

Answer 2

Happiness is not comforts

‘Does Happiness depend upon comfort? ’

The answer is definitely a big, ‘No! ’

Happiness lies in not comforts alone!

Happiness is not a static quality of the human mind, body and soul.

Answer 3

Turn on

Tune in

Drop out.

Answer 4

Instead of "I want, I want, I want. May be think of others instead of yourself all the time.   It is said, "Happiness is in giving more than receiving".

Answer 5

Where SELF IMAGE is concerned there is predominately 5 things that hold people back from believing in THEMSELVES.

1. Fear of...

2. Guilt

3. Deserving

4. Not worthy

5. Change

The CAUSE of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system. Get rid of the disruption and the barriers that are holding you back will disappear.

Answer 6

Happiness is not a goal, it is a process it is a decision, a conscious choice for the present, decide to be happy now and the process has already begun.

Miserable people get the same number of good time opportunities as happy people, but miserable people tend to over look this.

Answer 7

Judge yourself according to your own expectations, not those of your society.  That is the key to happiness.

Answer 8

Become a Christian. Yeah I know all the cynics will give me the thumbs down, but have you ever really met a miserable Christian, it's a contradiction in terms. As a point just click onto President Bush at that church in Beijing it's on BBC I believe, just look at all those smiling Chinese Christians. Say's it all really.

Answer 9

I just thought of this now:

Get a pad and paper and ask family members/friends what is one thing they like about you. Have them write it down and once you're finished, read their responses. What this does is give you a confidence boost. Keep this list as a reminder to when you're feeling down.

What I do sometimes is positive self-talk. Don't actually talk to yourself out loud; keep it in your head. In a social gathering, mentally tell yourself that you're gonna compliment someone then do it. Tell yourself that you're going to change then do it, in baby steps.

Imagine the new you and strive everyday to become what you see in your mind. It's not impossible; people change everyday and it just takes time.

Answer 10

Nothing gets on people's **** more than being Overtly Confident and Assertive. Many people with these seemingly enviable qualities often develop into brainless bullies. Look at Americans with their "How to be a strong person" Culture.

One of the things that people should like about you is your sensitivity. Don't lose that. Okay?

If you wanna be strong, save your strength with work, self Discipline and knowing the difference between right and wrong.

We all have bad points, embrace them and your good points too. Above all, have fun and sod anyone who wants to belittle you.

If you come across anyone with an attitude, politely back off, and leave them to it. They do not deserve to be your friends. I'd tell them to F**k off, but I'm a boisterous Chap with an attitude.

Answer 11

put your faith in Jesus Christ and His father. the only way to be ultimately happy is to live for Him. God will always forgive your sins as long as u ask and you will find comfort in that and learn by His example.

Answer 12

The condition of Man won't change until they change within themselves.