How do you boost your self-esteem?

Question

I have a low self-esteem ,and I struggle to boost it up. I get a lot of scrutiny and criticism from my step-mom. She does it on everything from my looks to how I live my life. A lot of knit picking. She does it all of the time. In the morning when I come down, instead of saying something like good morning or something positive, she starts criticizing and scrutinizing me or barking orders. It does effect the way I see myself, and how other people see me. I get so worried when I talk to other people because I am afraid of their judgment. I also feel more comfortable talking to others without my mom present because I get worried. Any advice. Please no rude comments.

Answer 1

Give your opinion confidently. If there is an argument, don't just side with the most popular person. Say what you actually believe. People will respect you more. Present your ideas to the crowd. Make eye contact with the people you are talking to. Let them feel your unlimited self confidence in you.

Entertainment also can be a great tool to build a teenager's self confidence. Listening to inspirational music or watching a movie that you enjoy the most. When you are feeling down or something's just not going well on that particular day, spend your time listening to music, unwind and recharge yourself to face the reality world again.

Answer 2

Act like you are the star in a movie..a self-confident, good looking, and self-assured person. What we portray to others, they will also percieve.  Thats just the way it works.  What we think of fourselves, others will think.  All we do in life is play a role, and we have to select the one we wanna play.  

Your step mom has made you feel intimidated...as you grow up and gather your self esteem...let no woman make you feel bad....to intimidate you.  

Invision who you want to be and create it..HUGS!!

Answer 3

Self-Esteem derives from accomplishments...big or small.  It's terrible that someone being an adult figure in your life would demoralize you.  Heres a few things I can think of- Ask to speak with your step-mom about the situation...possibly with your dad present.  Let her know what she does to you is not right and pretty much lay it out on the table.  Also, you and your step-mom should realize that you are YOU and not someone else...nor should you be compared to someone else especially their looks etc...Genetically some of us are born the way we are and no matter how much dieting or weight loss pills etc we use, it won't change a damned thing!!!   I know this might be tough, but start to believe in yourself...and convince yourself that you ARE a wonderful person.  If you are wanting to head to the gym----I don't know your availabillity to work out equiptment or a gym, however it has been proven that excersize is not only good for the mind and body but also a wonderful self-esteem booster, (plus you are usually around positive people at a gym :o)  )  Working out, or doing yoga is also a stress reliever....you may not end up with the perfect body, however you will be able to become stronger mentally and physically..Even daily walks...or a jog at sunset....active is key!

I would also suggest , depending on your age, finding an adult that is not family related, maybe a school counselor, a help line, a neighbor you trust etc that might be able to help guide you...Keep in mind however, some adults, (my mother included) are just being the parent they thought they could or should be...and yes my mom still nit-picks my life too- however I can properly conclude when talking to my mom that she is doing it out of the kindness of her heart and for my well-being....This is why i strongly suggest talking to your step-mom and possibly bring dad into the setting as well...Unfortunately I know too many people who have had terrible upbringings because of their step-parent and it has resulted in some SERIOUS personallity issues and psychological problems.I wish you luck and stay positive, keep a smile on! Theres always another fresh day awaiting you..and remember you are a wonderful person who deserves every bit of respect that you give to others, back!!!