How do you break up with someone who is very clingy and might go psycho if you try to?

Question

ive wanted to break up with him since january but I seriously think he would do something crazy if I tried. ughhhh

Answer 1

Don't you think waiting any longer will only make it worse?  

Answer 2

OMG. Been there - done that. My best advice is to just get it over with. Try reasoning, but if that doesn't work, just cut the cord. Trust me! You will look back and wonder why you didn't do if sooner and wasted so much of your life living in fear of "What if?".

Answer 3

try to see if u can find a way to get him to break up with u, cause if that works, you'll be blameless and you can move on like u want 2

Answer 4

Call the cops, if he touches you!!

You GO GIRL WOOHH

Answer 5

You can't be in a relationship just because you are worried the guy is going to go psycho. It's not healthy. Just tell him you do not want to be in a relationship right now, and let that be the end of it. Bring a friend if you need support, or do it in a public place. Don't let it draw out. You don't need to listen to his 'please I'll do better' speech, or whatever else he tries. Tell him you have an appointment to go to and never answer his calls again.

If he's 26 hours away how do you even call it a relationship?

Call him up and say you don't want to talk to him again and quit answering his calls. What's he going to do from 26 hours away that you're so scared of? If you're worried he's going to damage himself you gotta know that is not your problem. He's gonna do it eventually anyways.

Answer 6

since january??

geez. say what you feel. get it over with. because waiting longer will just worsen it.  

Answer 7

Tell him your moving to another country and avoid him.

Answer 8

if he's really crazy, do it over the phone (Although that's prolly the worst way to do it)!!!!!!!

Answer 9

Melinda, I am sure if the person is worth leaving one has to do that. The only thing you need to keep in mind is that once you make a decision(after careful thought that u want to break up) do not sympathise with his situation therafter..

Answer 10

Hello, let get started with this question. Being a boy myself, I understand that we can be a little touchy when it comes to girls. The worst thing to do is to dump him without being next to him, eg. on the phone, on MSN, on fax, text, etc. You need to break it to him slowly, if you run up to him, yell, "your dumped," and run away, your phyco boyfriend might just go over the edge. Sit with him and have a conversation aout how you and him get on. TOP TIP:

Do not lie, for several reasons:

If he finds out you have lied to him, squelch goes the knife.

You might stumble and show signs of being weak, which he will try to take advantang of.

Generally, even if they don't know you lie, Ex's can be evil.

Finally, break it to him. If his reaction scares you, talk to your parents.

All the best,

x*x yahoo.guru

Answer 11

try talking to him about it, if he is really crazy just tell himstraight up nad if he tries anything or your just scared get a restraining order

Answer 12

Call the police, if hes threatening you. Don't put up with that .Or say you have vd that'd work!

Answer 13

nike slogan:

just do it

Answer 14

You need out of a relationship like that!  Maybe you should work at getting HIM to break up with YOU.  Don't do anything to make him jealous to do it;  that will just make him possessive.  Become a boring stick-in-the-mud.  Be uninterested in anything about HIM. These narcissistic types want everything to be about themselves.  Never be ready on time.  Don't get all dressed up when you spend time with him.  Deny intimacy.  Acquire an annoying habit, especially one which you already know he can't stand. Maybe cracking your knuckles or something like that.  Don't laugh at his jokes.  Be rude to him.  Make him feel bad about himself when he's with you; people don't like to spend time with people like that.  

Or...you could just take a chance at breaking up with him and see what happens.  

Answer 15

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Answer 16

Tell him you  want a vacation from your relationship cause it just isnt working.  Dont worry about him doing something crazy  cause  if he does,he'll learn from    the mistake.

Answer 17

Go somwhere n jus talk... than tellim dat u dont want him anymor ver GENTLY. say im sorry but i kinda dont wanna b wit u no mor n jus giv im a hug or somethin n leave. dont turn around jus LEAVE.  

Answer 18

well if hes 26hours away then, no point telling u do it in public place so wouldnt go psycho on u.. give him a ring, tell him out straight that it aint working, blame it on the distance, tell him cant do it anymore, wante something more, something better as u feel like its just not right for u, not what u want anymore. if he cant take it and go crazy on phone hang up, and dont speak to him again. and if he keeps been nuts with calls or texts then change ur number all together.

dont waste anymore time with doing this, do it sooner the better for ur self, and after wards go out and enjoy ur new found freedom, when the time is right, the guy for u will come along, but in mean time, enjoy been single,live it up and do whatever u feel like without worrying about any1 else.. goodluck and have fun while single.. Cheers..

Answer 19

CONTINUE TO BE NICE AND NON THREATENING, SLOWLY PUSH HIM AWAY BY NOT HANGING OUT AS MUCH, NOT CONVERSING  AS MUCH AND ALWAYS HAVE SOMTHING TO DO EVEN IF YOU DON'T REALLY, BY MINIMIZING CONTACT HE SHOULD GRADUALLY FADE AWAY, IF HE STILL TRY TO CLING ON, GET A RESTRAINING ORDER

Answer 20

Every state has some form of legal Writ that you can take out to make it illegal for the other person to approach you.  Have one of these made out, then announce the break up by phone and explain to him the legal ramifications if he shows up at your door; meaning that when the police arrive he will be arrested.

Answer 21

I think maybe a phone would be your best bet!