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How do you break up with your bf of 8 months?

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I'm 16 and i don't know how to do it

he's always saying that im everything and if he doesn't have me he will break down

I don't want that to happen though

So can i do it gently i guess

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no such thing as breaking up gently... now u can do what i use to do make them break up with me... but if u dont wanna waste anymore time and just want to get out of the situation then just talk to him and do it keep it short and simple and dont let him say all that c**p he isnt gonna do anything maybe feel like c**p for a week to the most but he will get over it dont worry us guys are huge babys at first but then we get over it
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suck his d**k then leave
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You tell him that though it may seem to him that you are everything to him that it should be like that both ways, and it isn't. A relationship that isn't a 2 way street is futile. Honesty may hurt, but is necessary. You can tell him you wished that you feel the same way to him as he does you, but you don't.
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yes, i agree with isabelle, just do it. talk to him and tell him why its not going so well right now. boys are kind of lame these days, its hormones making them think they will die without you lol... but idk...
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wear s**y bikinis..
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this is really hard isnt it? Well i had to break up with my boyfriend who i dated for 9 months. I reckon just tell him you think you guys are growing apart and you need some time to look at yourself and where you want to go in life. Make it all your fault because then he won't feel that bad---never say awh we can still be friends or something thats such a qliche boys dont fall for that one anymore!!!

good luck aye
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yes i agree with the first 1. just dont do it over a phone call or textt. in person. dont go back into it just becuz u feel bad
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theres is no way to make it easy, you just have to do it.

be nice with your words thats all I can tell you.
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Ya know, some questions just ain't worth answering
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Breaking anything constant, means a change is taking place.  Change scares many people.  This is likely why your boyfriend feels he will fall apart. He is not ready to grow without you. He and possibly you might feel like your falling apart, breaking down - just keep in mind that change is good, albeit scary it could also be seen as a great adventure.  We all can't act the same age forever.  Embrace change!

If you don't see any way or any reason to make changes to keep your  currently relationship then break-up quick and clean.  Meet him on a park bench or another public neutral environment and tell him that you two dating each other is not working for you.  Let him know that you don't want to continue seeing him as your boyfriend.  Maybe a simple friendship would keep the relationship lasting longer.  Let him know that, at this time, you will need space to clear your head.  Tell him that you need to end all communication for at least a year.

Be happy and see this as one of many experiences to learn from.
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no you can't do it gently..but you can do it nicely.

You are going to have to be honest with him and tell him you have learned a lot about yourself in this relationship.  But you are only 16 and you are both young enough to know that most relationships dont' last when you are that young.  Tell him you have to move on and it is over and you know he will be fine.  Don't let him emotionally blackmail you into staying with im and realize he isn't going to have a break down.  It is going to hurt....someone always hurts at the end of a relationship...it can't be avoided.

Don't go into any long conversatons and if he wants to talk about it tell him it hurts you too much to see him in pain and you are sorry you are the cause of it...but you can't help it.  You have to break up.  then walk away.  There is nothing else to say and nothing else to do.  You do not have to explain things that aren't right or what is wrong..it won't  make him feel better.  The fact that you aren't happy in the relationship is all that he needs to know.

You will have been mature and grown up about it and let him know you aren't a monster or a witch....and that you genuinely cared for the time you spent together.

The sooner you do it the better you will be.
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striaghtforward is the best approach. Your choices are hurt him or stay with him forever. It does not hurt less if you are slow and cryptic. Let it fly.
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Here is some help.

http://search.yahoo.com/search?p=How+do+...
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If you think hes going to be a little ***** about it...

just tell him that you need some time to yourself and that its not his fault
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Tell him the truth about what you feel. If you pretend to love him and continue this relationship, would both of you be happy? Someday you must tell him and so, why not now? Tell him now because as time go longer, he will feel more hurts because his love for you will definitely deepen. And ONE advice for you..Don't trust what a man's say that he will break down without you.. No one is cannot live without others. Maybe he will feel sad for a period of time but as the time pass, he will forget about you and live like usual already. If all guys come and tell you that they cannot live without you, then you think you will marry all of them? Be rasional. Don't let yourself fall in the trap of love. Good luck..
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for like a week or so act kinda diferent

& by the end say

Ive changed im sorry but i want us to break up

you cant be scared of what he might do
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Don't wait.

That's the best that I can say because he'll only get more attached.

Just be honest about it and then give him a LOT of space.

It'll suck for him to be sure, but that's part of growing up.  Hopefully he'll learn something from it.

And in the end, he'll be happier in a relationship where both people feel the same.
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Gently or not, it'll still hurt him. But if that's what you want, you have to do it. Staying in a relationship that you don't want to be in, can end up badly.
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just make sure you look him straight in the eye while you tell him. that bothered me when my gf broke up with me because she didn't look at me while she did it
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gently....sorry there is nothing gentle about breaking someones heart, just get it over with.
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be honest and just tell him that u cant handle the stress of dating him right now. or try getting him interested in someone else but subtly
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Ha I Remember When I Was Sixteen It Was Only 3 Years ago but anyway You Should Just Go Up To Him And Freestyle It. Because When You Plan It It Sucks You leave Them With Hecka Questions That You Dont Feel ike Answering. But When You Say Whats From Your Heart At That Time Your More Prepared To Say Whats From The Heart. And Anyway You Guys Are Hella Young In A Year It Will All Seem Like Nothin. Trust Me And P.S Make Sure He IS Not One Of Thoughs Crazy *** Guys That Would Hurt Him Self Or Anything Because If He Says He Will Break Down Thas Fine It Will Probably Make Him Stronger For His Next Girl...
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its gonna be hard no matter what , but just tell him your not happy anymore and you need a little break =
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Why you breaking up tho? you lost interest?

If so just sit him down and tell him the reason. he is going to be hurt but nothing you can do about it. Atleast talking to him in person is better then an SMS or email lol. or if you really want start treating him like **** and make him break up with you.
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"WUZZZZUUUUP?!?! yo bro ive been thinkin' we go together like hotdog water and ice cream... SO you gotta G-G-GO! make like a tree and G-GET! G-G-G-G UNIT!!!"

that is a perfect example of how NOT to handle it. be gentle with your words and you just gotta tell him.
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JUST DO IT IT'Z NOT HARED
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Yeah you definitely need to break up with him. You need someone who was whole when you met them, not someone you complete. Just say "Look, it's been a really great time going out with you. But I've outgrown this relationship and it's time for me to move on." It's simple and direct and gets your point across. He'll start whining and asking questions but you need to stay strong and say "I've made up my mind, I'm sorry."
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just start not seeing him as much. give it to him easy then tell him that you havent been able to see each other too much and that you want to have just a little time alone. tell him its not him its just you. Tell him how great he is and how good of a person he is and that theres so many people out there for. Always be nice to him though
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well why exactly do you want to break up with him? if its not a good enough reason dont do it...but if it is then i guess go for it.
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That is manipulation on his part and you can't be responsible for that. If he is saying he will die or hurt himself if y'all break up.. then all the more reason you need to break up.. that isn't healthy. So the only way to handle this stuff is in the most adult and calm way possible. Say to him... I know you care, and I care too, but this just isn't working. You know it and I know it. It doesn't feel right. I think you are a great guy but I am just not a good match for you. Definitely do it with a gentle touch. And if there is a way to do so, have a friend either there, or close by enough that you can call for assistance. Better yet, do it at your house. Just make sure you tell him you don't hate or disrespect him, but that you just don't think it works.
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