How do you choose your friends?

Question

How do you choose your friends?

Answer 1

find people dat it eays for u to be urself around

Answer 2

You don't.  (:

Answer 3

i didn't really chose them as such, we all found each other :) x

Answer 4

When we choose friends we choose them because they meet various and many needs.

We are by nature gregarious and as complex beings have many needs.  Some are simple like groups of people to play sports with, e.g. football.  If therefore this is an interest of yours you would seek out people with a similar interest, meet up, play football and perhaps socialise afterwards.  From people in your team you may find a few that share other interests that you also have and so you meet up to share those and so it goes on.

In essence you are evaluating people in terms of how they can meet your needs and what you can offer them.  These needs also include emotional needs so that we have friends who we can trust and rely in times of stress, trauma and maybe emotional upset.  Friendships take time to develop, mature and cement.

No matter the reason for developing a friendship with a particular individual all friendships are based to a greater or lesser degree on trust, openness, honesty, compromise and give and take.  It is not uncommon for friendships that started at school to continue well into and beyond adulthood.

Once a firm friendship is made it should be cherished since each will be there for the other in times of need.

This then is the essence of choosing but if your question relates to making friends that is another issue which I have answered on several occasions previously.  If this is the case then I suggest you go to my avatar and click on best answers.  You will find several answers there relating to friends, our need for them, self-confidnce and self-esteem      

Answer 5

tell them that you just inherited a huge amount of money [or something like that] and the real friends will be the ones who still treat you the same without trying to kiss up to you. always wanted to try that one.

Answer 6

i dont go by looks i go by who will stay by my side no matter what.  

Answer 7

I don't, we kind of choose each other!

Answer 8

You dont, it just happens. Maybe a shrink could explain it, but from the hundreds of people, possibly all nice people if you are lucky, why do some become friends and some not. My best friend and i have known each other for 20 years and you just couldnt meet two people more different. On the face of it we have nothing at all in common, yet we have remained close friends for half a lifetime almost.

I have a female work partner, attractive, in my age group and a really nice person in every way. We have worked closely together for 5 years and people often comment that we are like an old married couple. we have a wonderful relationship at work and yet if you asked either of us, i dont think either of us would class the other as a 'friend' as such.

Answer 9

Loyalty, good morals, family orientated, outgoing, good sense of humour, don't take life to seriously!!

Answer 10

I dont really choose my friends:\

I just sort of become friends with them, its hard to pick friends, i just go with the flow and see what happens. :)

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Answer 11

I use a random method which involves a phone book, a blind fold and a drawing pin.

Only joking!

Answer 12

I don't choose friends and I can say I do not have a single friend. The few I knew let me down badly and I knew they weren't friends; I was just someone it was convenient to know at certain points in time.

I think the word friend is over used. I believe a friend should be someone you can trust, who you could tell your inner most thoughts, be there for you (where possible) 24/7, would be caring and thoughtful and great fun. I would be prepared to give all those things to a friend.

If you have one true friend, you are lucky. If you have two, then you have the world in your hands.

Answer 13

nice, fun, spirited people who like me!

Answer 14

You choose people who you can trust, who are on your wave length, people who don't judge you but accept you for who you are and people who you feel comfortable in their company. Hope this helps

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