How do you choose your friends ?

Question

How do you choose your friends ?

Answer 1

when we deal with ppl in different social context through our studt, work, or family context, we dont consciously put them under a check-list of pros and cons in order to choose them as friends or not.

we might however choose the ppl we deal with as a start according to some kind of profiling, it is not a good word to use, i know. but thats actually what happens, you feel comfortable when you see somone who is similar to ppl in your past (in looks and attitude) because you had positive experience with them.

By consequent experinece with them their character image (field of interests, manners, religous values, level of education) become clear in your head afterwords. and then you start to feel comfortable with them by the way they make you feel about your self. or not.

yet some ppl might be having same interests, and same social backgrounds, but thier characters (teba3) can not be handled, as someone who always criticizes you for the way you dress whenever you ask him/her "is this good?">> "no no no".. or whenever s/he doesnt give you the privacy you need..... things like that

so after this experience, it might ends your concept of profiling others and it just fades-away and you start to give more room to exprience ppl with a widen variety, and then judge them based on experience, not in a mean or evil manners as you are out of flaws, but defining where this man/woman fits in my life, as a work colleague only, as a hang-out friend, as a friend when i need a shoulder to cry on. or it is better to avoid him/her....

if you look around you, we need actually a variety of friends, because you might be an outgoing personality, and a person who also likes to talk in polotics, then you might have friends who are outgoing as you, but doesnt enjoy you when you start expressing your polotical analysis in a way that they might be irritated, so another friend in this group or out of this group will give you a room for that. and then might be joining you in your outgoing character from time to time.

final note: this is totally different when we take about choosing your life mate.

Answer 2

When the person is someone who is fun, and i can have a good time with, and trust.  

Answer 3

helpful

ask for you

care for you

smile to you

think for the better for you

raise your success

always thinks for making you in fun

remind you with funny and nice situation

tells his experience for you

make you a good muslim example

feel sorrow for you when you lose

ask Allah to be in the top place in Paradise

just for you

Answer 4

oo easy question. wether i can trust them or not. wether they bad or good ( i mean in like follow law and stuff) so ya i don't want trouble and bad enough to have a friend blamin it on me

Answer 5

Well. this is tha thing. If they make yu do something that yu wouldn't do... then don't really hang around them because they will get yu in trouble and cause yu 2 change I know because it happened 2 me... so hang out w/ ppl who let yu be who yu are and won't critisize yu 4 it... choose friends wisely because friends might one day be all yu have left.

Answer 6

I don't really choose them i act myself and 7amdulilah,they come and start talking to me and we become friends but if im choosing from good and bad,i kick out the bad and keep in the good friends cause the bad arent gonna do anything to me but ruin myself...and the good are gonna improve myself isA.

Answer 7

you can not choose,,,,situationsand chnces put them n your way

Answer 8

well...i think they just pop up

we have good chemistry together..so we become friends

Answer 9

I don't really choose anyone. When I meet new persons and I really like them and feel comfortable with them, then that's the beginning of a new friendship. I don't really care to have the same interests or hobbies with my friends, that would be boring a litte bit. It's important to understand each other (I don't mean the language..lol) and to trust each other. The destiny wants me to have that person as a friend and not the other person...  

Answer 10

I don't...

They choose me :p

Answer 11

By their morals, values & common interests.  Also, to know that they are trustworthy and will be around in time of need.

Answer 12

when i like someone , i choose her as my friend .

most of my friends are my opposite .

so, we sort of complete each other .