How do you come to terms with your Mother's death?

Question

I feel so, so sad - I keep going to the phone to tell her things/ ask her things. She died 10 days ago and I miss her so, so much.

Answer 1

Aw i'm so sorry.

try to come to terms with how you felt about her and remember everything she was great for.

try not to dwell on the bad times and think of her in a good way.

Answer 2

Its been over 18 months since my dad died, and I still chat to him all the time. Just remember your mum wouldn't want you to be sad all the time, but you are quite right to grieve for her.

Answer 3

Sorry Deb,  It is a sad thing to lose a parent.  It is normal to feel sad. Talk to others in your family to help you through it. Other family members might be feeling the same way.  Just think how your Mom would want you to feel right now.  It will get better as time goes by.  Sorry.  

Answer 4

Dear,  My Mother was killed November 4, 1982.  I haven't come to terms yet, but it's like she's here with me.  The things I do, say and my actions and reactions are what my Mother taught me.  I would like to think she is somewhat proud of the way I turned out. I still talk to her almost every day as I do JESUS.  So be assured she is with you, and always will be.  You can still talk to her and without a telephone!  You will get your answers.

Answer 5

my mom died when I was three, so I guess in that respect I was lucky to not have known her too well. I still wish I could've known her, all I have are stories and photos. the best thing to do is just try and live and not think about her with bad memories, mostly good ones. and just try and keep living and not let it get to you too much, and cause a handicap for the rest of your life.  

Answer 6

It's hard to get over, grief is bitter and difficult to soothe when so fresh.  I'm sorry about your mother, you'll always miss her, as long as she lives in your memory that that she'll never really have died.

Here is a grieving forum, it's very good and has many helpful folks

http://ths.gardenweb.com/forums/grieving...

Answer 7

So sorry to hear that. Im 26 and my mum died when i was 9, thats 17 years ago and it still hurts like crazy. You must greive in your own way but it will get easier in time.

Put a nice picture of her in a frame next to your bed, and cry when ever you need to, never hold it back.

Its only been 10 days so its raw but it wont always be like this. Your mum will always be in your heart and one day you will be with her.

But now is the time for living, she has lived her life and gave you yours so live it too the full, she would want you too be happy.

Good luk and remember you have all your memories and shes always with you. xx

Answer 8

sorry t hear that, You can't,  its been 2 years now, and i still miss her and always do, you just have to try to move on, thats what friends are for

Answer 9

Grief is a process that takes a long time.  My father died 10 years ago and I still am not over it, but I am better.  Just be easy on yourself and take some time off if you can.

Answer 10

I am soooo sorry for your loss.

Answer 11

hi

firstly, i am very sorry to hear about your mother. i know how it feels, i am 15 and my mum died when i was 12, and yet i still remember so clearly feeling this utter emptiness, but shock too, and i made the mistake of bottling my feelings inside me-which is the wrong thing to do.

make sure you talk regularly to family/friends, let everything out. in the long run, it will help.

i am also so deparate to tell my mum things and ask her stuff, so i find that writing letters to her and pretending she has received them really helps.

i will admit that it will take a while to sink in. i still feel that it has not hit me.

please e-mail me if you would like to chat, i would be happy to :)

good luck sweetheart x*x

Answer 12

very sorry to hear about your loss. here's an article about collen nolan whose mum died recently:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/art...

maybe you could set up a website or group on facebook or something or write down your most treasured memories of her

grieving is such a normal part of death but I'm sure she would not want you to be upset or to put your life on hold. you could try calling samaritans too sometimes they can actually be very understanding

Answer 13

Im sorry for ur loss.

i know how u feel, my mum died last year, i still think i can just pick up the phone to call her,

its the hardest thing to ever go thru, i was so close to her aswell not only was she my mum but also my best friend,

its so hard,

dont know if u believe in spirits and that, but i still talk to her, and often dream of her,

i also visit a medium too which takes alot off my mind, its just like talking to my mum, iv sat on my own before and asked my mum stuff and wen iv visited the medium she told me the answers,

i think your mum would want you to carry on and remember the good times u spent with her,

i know my mum is happy at peace now without all that pain she went thru, i think the same she is happy now, but i miss her and love her so much!

u will be ok, remember your mum is with you every second.

god bless!

Answer 14

You need time. It's very hard to accept the death of a family member. Especially your Mom who hugged you and loved you unconditionally! Try to have as much company as possible and talk about her a lot...  cry all you can because someday, you'll stop crying and start thinking about all the great memories she gave you. You'll eventually be OK... {{HUGS}}

Answer 15

My Mum died in March. Recently I went on holiday and lost count of the times I thought 'Oh I will tell my Mum about this'. Also with things like my daughters school report. You automatically think that you will go and tell your Mum. I'm still doing it now and it has been 5 months. I know how you feel x