How do you continue a relationship after someone has been caught cheating but swore it wouldn't happen again?

Question

How do you continue a relationship after someone has been caught cheating but swore it wouldn't happen again?

Answer 1

you don't.

you move on and find someone who values you and LOVES you and never puts you in that crappy position in the first place.

Answer 2

that is a very hard question that people deal with everyday. the only thing i can say from my own experience is. first evaluate the situation. with you and the person. find out what made them do it in the first place. second you need to find out was this a one time thing with this person or was it intended to go be an ongoing thing. third try to improve yourself in ways that would i guess make them guilty to do it again without being to pushy. and lastly keep them close. kind of monitor whats going on and nip problems in the bud before they get to far. ask questions and pray. if its not meant to be god will let you know.

Answer 3

If you want to continue the relationship, you must forgive and forget.  You can't keep bringing it up, no matter what.  While the person may be sorry for the action, if you keep throwing it in their face eventually they will stop being sorry, which of course will doom the relationship, either by another cheating incident or by the other person just leaving.

Answer 4

Sorry to say but once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 5

i don't think you should. you're never going to be able to fully trust that person again. what if he or she says they're going to the store at 10:00pm to pick up something....what would you think? there's always going to be that doubt and it's better to end it now than to set yourself up for more hurt.  

Answer 6

Yeah, yeah whatever.

If you had an ounce of self respect or self esteem, you would have ended this relationship once and for all. You would have kicked him to the curb and would have not looked back.

You must be one of those women who enjoys being abused, you must think it makes you feel powerful because now you got the upper hand. Get over yourself.

I can't even believe that you are asking this question! How do you continue a relationship? You don't.

Women whom are strong, true to themselves, demand respect and feel as if they deserve the world on a silver platter, DO NOT put up with such bullsh*t! Women who believe that they deserve to be happy and deserve better, would never stick around, if someone had cheated on them.

But then again, it wouldn't happen to them.

Some women have it and some don't.

Do you really think that you do? You were cheated on...think real hard.

Answer 7

Been there done that.  Most will cheat again.  They will say anything to get you to stay .  They become good at lying.   Remember it's not where he's at it's where he wants to be.

Answer 8

my fiancé had this prob with his ex. he forgave her twice then just gave up and learned that once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 9

Yeha, not everyone who cheats is going to do it again, but thats only part of it. The main half of it is, are you going to be paraniod about it for the rest of this now doomed relationship? Are you always going to be wondering or asking outloud where they have been or who they were with? Are you always going to be snooping around the place looking for evidence? Everytime you are together, is that other persons face going to be in the back of your mind forever putting a damper on your mood? Its not always about 'if they are going to do it again', sometimes it all falls on the way your mind will cope.

Answer 10

Depends on what you mean by 'continue the relationship'.

If it were me, the only continuation would be "It's been nice knowing you." If it happened once, it'll happen again. Trust, once broken, cannot be completely fixed.

Answer 11

That is a hard one to ask there. To me accord how long you two have been together.  If, you been with the one that cheated 50 years i say stay but now if you been with that one for 6 months i say go. Because 50 years is a long time to start over but 6 months things are still new to each other. So according how long you been together.

Answer 12

You can't.

That person lost his/her trust for his/her partner.

You can continue it, but the person who got caught cheating is gonna have to go through a tough time trying to convince the other.

Answer 13

It's the hardest thing you will ever try to do. But it can be done.Forgive and forget, NO YOU CAN'T you  learn to live with it and don't  though it up all the time go on with life. If he really love's you he will try to make it up to you and that will make easier. Good luck and read between line's    

Answer 14

Personally, I wouldn't continue a relationship with someone who cheated.  But, if you have decided to, you really need to get to the root of why your partner  cheated, address the problems that lead to it and why he or she felt that it was an appropriate way to deal with the problems.. then, you just work slowly to repair the damage and to not make the same mistakes..  

Answer 15

I don't. I put up with a lot of things.. Cheating ain't one of them. If I wanted a disease I would pick the person who I am going to have it with...not let the other person give me their choice...UGH....Plus I would never be able to trust that person again. I would always in the back of my mind wonder...who their with, what are they doing..why are they doing it....and what did I do to cause it....I for one will not put myself in the position of degrading myself after being cheated on.

Answer 16

I wish people would stop saying "once a cheater, always a cheater". The phrase is ridiculous and infers that every person who makes poor choices cannot learn from them. Granted, many do cheat again, but not everyone.

First, examine the circumstances. Did this person seek out someone to cheat with? If that is the case, there is excellent chances he will cheat again. If instead, he met someone at his job that he sees everyday and one thing led to another, maybe he can learn from the mistake.

Look at the scope of things. Is he young and still not ready to settle down? Does he come from a broken family or did his father do the same? How is your relationship? Is there communication?

If you feel he is overall a good human being and that he is truly remorseful and cares what effect this had on you, work out why he did it and open the lines of communication.

But, be sure your eyes are wide open in the future.

Answer 17

i wouldn't be able to get past it,depends on how many times this person has cheated, but from my experience it never works out, they always cheat on u again.