How do you control your anger?

Question

i get angry very easily adn it causes devastation in the house how do i control it. and after everthing is done i fell guilty as i think it is my fault

Answer 1

when you get really angry or frusterated with someone, just sit by yourself for a few minutes and try to cool off, forget about everything that you are made about and just think of something calm, like clouds, or the ocean, that always helps me when I get angry. Some people just need alone time.

Answer 2

i squeeze my teeth and take a deep breath, then head to my room for music, u know to change moods..

then at night i talk all about it to my bf..

it always works for me...

i get angry and teased so so so fast !!!

Answer 3

When there is a problem, ask yourself the source of it. Is it people who make you angry ? Is it you who make others angry ? Is it you who make yourself angry ? Think through the problem. There are other causing factors like may be there is a physical problem like before your menstrual cycle.  

Answer 4

I lose my temper quite easy too.. I find it best to walk away and calm down by myself.. But some people just love friction and won't let you do it..

Answer 5

calm blue ocean

Answer 6

anger management- phsychologist  

Answer 7

During the times when this happens, instead of feeling guilty afterward, go to the people whom you hurt or disrespected and apologize. Learn about self control, it is something everyone has, but we all need to learn how to use it. There are times I need to send my kids to their rooms to play as I calm down. Maybe it would help you to just get away from everyone as you calm down. Perhaps music can also calm you down. Just keep trying, and it will come.  

Answer 8

Anger is caused by "things not working out right" meaning they turn opposite our expectations. We want something, and it doesn´t happen that way. We take the situation as (our) failure, defeat, mistake.

More often it happens, more often we experience anger. With the accumulation of those "failures", the speed of anger appearing is bigger. Every smallest next "failure" triggers anger. It´s a well known syndrome.

To overcome anger, one need to "go back".

Need to face situations from the past. Recognize them, think them over and try to experience them again. Through that process of recognition, needs to get the INSIGHT of things.

( Analyse them. Find logical explanation why they occurred. And put the blame off! In other words accept them.)

Once you achieved that, you´ll disable the "triggers" of anger happening in the future ( You recognize the situation, take a few breaths and block the "triggers" BY THE POWER OF YOUR WILL).

Practicing this with determination, you´ll disable the "triggers" permanently.

Answer 9

count down frm ten by ten ur either more pissed off or calmer. walk away bit ur lip lol i do all these or i go mental and start chucking things its the red hair honest looool i get snappy too easy ;)

Answer 10

There's anger and there's passion. It's alright to feel strongly about things. It's not good to get physical, ever. In moments of passion try to always make sense. Knowing where the high ground is helps a lot. Stick to the subject. When somebody goes off subject call them on it. Try not to get personal. Don't be afraid to agree in part and still voice a feeling. Frances Bacon's views on debate and winning arguments has helped me for years.



For control I use martial arts and the meditation within it. I find that by learning how to USE my pulse and focus I can control my anger better, and notice when I'm getting angry sooner. The sooner you notice the better. It puts you in the wrong to START violence. Plus you can better deflect or stop it when it comes your way.

There's a trick to walking away from an argument. Admit when you're getting too hot. "Look, I'm a bit wound up right now. Let's take a break from this." If you have friends and family teach them how to respect these pauses and come back in a set time. Say, five minutes. Always come back.

When I've had to walk away from strangers in an arguement I've always said something like, "We're waisting time. Forget it." and at times said, "We're done here." On the times where someone moved to follow me, I warned them off. "Hey, I'm walking away here.", "I don't think hounding me is legal", "Don't stalk me."

Philosophically I recognize that everyone can be moved to violence. But I can only control myself. I also recognize that everyone has a fighting beast inside of them. When you forget it's there it surprises you when it attacks. I've trained mine to obey me by trotting it out and grooming it. Too many people refuse to even look at the cage and learn how long the chain is. I've adjust his chain and learned it's triggers. I use my anger so that my anger will not use me.

Answer 11

Don't forget that ur breathing all the time even in the time u feel anger...

Just take a deep breath whenever u feel anger...u'll relax...

Otherwise just postphone ur anger...as most of the humans do it in many consequences...why not in 'anger' too...

Answer 12

So do i walk away count to ten and get some fresh air i find that helps

Answer 13

Exercise - I go for a run.