How do you control your temper when another person ticks you off?

Question

How do you control your temper when another person ticks you off?

Answer 1

I think my way through what probably will happen.  I have plenty of instances where I was embarrassed by the emotional behavior that I or someone else displayed, so I just think of one of those situations.  In doing so you are taking the moral high road.  The smugness of this moral superiority is a good trade off for the relief felt when expressing yourself while angry.

Answer 2

punch them and punch them and punch them again again and again

Answer 3

Walk  away until you calm down. Then wait a while and work out why the pweson ticks you off before either discussing it or letting it go

Answer 4

I have great sympathy for you, as I feel you have some really dark people who like to push buttons to make you feel bad.

There are several ways to do so. The first is the best.

It is called the art of Diffusing.

To diffuse a 'Bomb' personality that is off and throwing things or screaming- if one can't just walk away, one has to close their eyes and listen to the words the person is saying.

Then look at them and find something funny about them.

In your mind as you watch them doing whatever they are doing, you then INFLATE to Diffuse.

INFLATION one time almost got me in a car accident well twice- Once when I was driving and once when I taught a friend. She was driving and near pulled out 1/2 foot into a speeding double size tractor trailer.

we both would have been found with giant smiles on our faces. to INFLATE the 'BOMB' mean person

it is best not to share what you are thinking or the above can occurr-

Example there is a guy who is tall with a beer belly.

Imagine him wearing a ballerina tu tu-

as he rants and raves imagine what he would look like dancing at that moment in time- The greater you can inflate it

the less the mean person will hurt you-

I have taken psychology classes and this is a common thing but it takes practice.

Usually saying thank you for that ! and smiling and changing the subject is better at first. But when you are safe

like in your own home or room inflate them

draw pictures of them- think of all the things that make that person foolish- when you get that image of them

you will just laugh when they go off-

IT is very difficult to do this when one lives with a I am always right you are always wrong person.  Leave is the best thing to do-

if you can tolerate what they are doing and saying

just imagine something happening to them

like a giant water ballon landed on them

it takes a lot of practice

i have done it and do it

but as stated it can be dangerous if shared with a friend while in traffic- my friend was upset again about her boyfriend

he was mean- we gave him funny names- He flirted with a girl and we named her and we went off on a story about them both- that is how we almost got hit by the tractor trailer-

It feels so wonderful once one masters that-

In public the smile! Thank you for that!

well well! Thank you for that Jason! You are such a wit!

If 'Jason' is trying to tick you off HE will try more things

there is a good book to read called dealing with people you can't stand- It teaches one about personality types and how to deal with and diffuse them-

so if you have someone who irks you

drawing them is fun

putting a big belly beer drinking man in red high heel shoes

and a funny hat

like if you have your own office and the boss or a coworker is being mean

doodle only you will know what it means

then look up and say what did you say?

the THANK YOU FOR THAT!

in any form always works

their intention to tick you off

fails

and then you will see if they come back again

it takes time to find out why they do what they do

most of the time it is jealous

i had a college friend

she was just out of high school

I was 25 at the time going to be a paramedic

I was a captain of a crew a firefighter

she wanted to beat me at whatever

tests, games- u know chick to chick

i used to FEED her need by playing board games with her

I would lose on purpose-

then I would have to run and hide in the bathroom because I was laughing-

one night during scrabble

I had to put  the word in

it was a triple score

and the word

was

IRE

which means wrath or rage or anger

she said THAT'S NOT A WORD! TAKE IT OFF!

I said it is a word it means!

she said take it off

I said get a dictionary

she said I don't have one

I took off the word

it was IRK some

to not be able to have fun with her

but she so wanted to be what I was

I mean I was older wiser

people always pick on someone who they feel is smarter

or luckier

or better at something

you can what makes people tick by really hearing them

time after time

see what you said

what they said

some people like to fight

some people do it because they have some other problem

and they snap at you

i saw a NUN on TV and a woman one time called up

and said

I always have people yelling at me

and I am always nice

i never raise my voice and am helpful

yet no one respects me

the woman was in tears

the NUN in her 90 plus years of wisdom

said people take things out on you

because they know you are a good person

and that you will forgive them

she was right

if you can watch the movie

Point of no Return

with Bridget Fonda

there is a point in the movie where she is told to

smile and say

I never did mind the little things

that is what I am getting at

letting someone know they irk you when they are in a bad mood

will only make it worse

some people will always irk you

spend less time with those who irk you

if you speak to them about it and ask to knock it off

and they persist

something is wrong inside of them

but be sure to check yourself in the mirror as well

to see if you do anything to provoke anyone

it isn't easy

to know a friend from a foe

it worse when it is family

walking away worked for me for a while

then the 'agressor' realized that i would

leave the room when a temper tanturn would occur

i would hide in the hall to watch how long it took for the agressor to calm down

i would find said agressor

to be watching TV only what 'it' wanted

and on the computer doing what 'it' wanted

and laughing while being in control of the weekend fun

there was a movie i wanted to watch

It said no

so I said ok then I will go on line

it got mad

it wanted both

so walking away all the time

often gives the person what they want

study each person to try and understand them

sometimes people will fight say with a sister

and then you are next in line

and they yell at you

they really are not mad at you

but are mad at the sister

only you can control you

others you can change

but you have to study the right books in the self help section

browse about

walk away

pick a book and read

a 91 year old air force vet told me recently

that when his wife gets mad and starts yelling and irking him

that he goes outside and sits on a chair in the sun

and pretends he is listening

she gets it out of her system

and he is busy thinking about his next bridge game

ignore he said is best because life is too short

do something else when they start

keep a secret log to see if you can pin point the same behavior

one i have acts up only when there is a full moon

i have an atomic clock and when i see the moon phase going to full i stay out of the way

sometimes for the sake of seeing if it is the moon

i will say something that i know will make it mad

we disagree on the death penalty that sets it off

see if you can get to the root of why who does what

though don't expect all of them to admit they have a problem

a lot will deny

anyway

and blame you

which would irk you and me too

so diffuse, doodle, think of funny things happening to them so you can laugh if off

say thank you so much for that! Man you are so insiteful!

and let it go ----

doing that part

would enable you to

understand the person so you can LEAVE right before they do it nit pick whatever irks you

anger management books would be a good read for you

many books I bought for the worst tick me off person

it tries

i imply IT

because a 'shrink' mind you

called a spouse that

IT

not he

not she

but

IT made me mad

i asked why

the shrink said IT and not he or she

if I say IT who am I talking about the shrink asked

IT could be in the room with me

and I can say I don't like it anymore

what don't you like anymore? Pepper.  Or

oh nothing just something I was thinking about

what was it?

it?

I forgot about it now..

come on tell me.....

It i forget what it was

salad please

8-)

GOOD LUCK

don't drive and Inflate or diffuse

twice was  2 times too many

when is is not a co worker

or family member

evaluate the friends to see if you can resolve and live with the problem they present

friends are like an elevator

they will take you up

or they will take you down

pick the friends you can get along with

but don't waste your life

worying about IT

the ignore thing works

unless it is a family issue that needs a resolve

like one spends too much

that needs to be dealt with rationally

THANK YOU FOR THAT BILL! YOU ARE SO FUNNY

and inside your head you are thinking

man you are such a Ballerina

you could hum a ballerina song

to yourself

or whistle it

how would BILL know what it means

say that is my favorite song

i think  it is swan lake

that goes

da da da da da da da da da da  da da da da DUT

or perhaps Bill's wife is the problem

always nagging you

put a beard on her

and plaid flannel shirt and jeans and work boots in your mind

and sing some trucker song

like we got a mightly convoy truckin through the night

singing does work well

people in the group laugh

and they forget what the mean person next to you said

best wishes

THE SEER

I SEE you having a better LIFE now -8-)

Answer 5

Imagine that they are standing there naked. this makes them vulnerable, but don't laugh at their 'wobbly bits'

Answer 6

Well I would just walk away if that's possible then leave them talking to themselves it's them it's going to look stupid after all they will be talking to them selves.

Answer 7

count til 3 then talk. it gives you time to stop thinking about the person and you kinda forget/get less angry. If doesnt work, try counting longer, like til 5 or 10.

Answer 8

usually i ask the higher power to let me see that person as the supreme being does.   sometimes though, i just yell....

Answer 9

That's a paranormal phenomena ?

Answer 10

Just relax alot,have self-control,and don't be with the person that ticks you off.

Answer 11

I just keep quiet & walk away.

Answer 12

I don't....If i know the person, If I don't know them I walk away..

Answer 13

Breathe deeply, clench and unclench my fists, take a walk, go somewhere and curse up a storm. . . then I go back to deal with the issue if necessary.

Answer 14

best thing to do is walk away, that ticks the other person off

that way u want say some thing that u didnt want to say takes a better person to walk away.because some one could get hurt.