How do you convince yourself You are NOT your mother.?

Question

I loathe my mother and im terrified of following in her footsteps.. I find myself falling for a guy a lot like her second husband.

Does anyone feel like this?

Answer 1

try not to worry about this so much, the more you worry about it the more likely you will be to bring in the things you don't want.

Answer 2

I worry that I'm like my mother.  I think a lot of us do.

Maybe you could talk to a licensed psychologist.  

Answer 3

No I like my mom.

Answer 4

I hear you, I live across the country from my mom, my sister came to visit and all she could do was spot out how I turned into my mom. I wouldnt worry you will never be her.   FOLLOW YOUR HEART

Answer 5

If he's a negative then do something to stop yourself from falling. Counseling will help you stop this self destructive behavior.

Btw, you do not have to follow in her footsteps. You can break the cycle and do a better job. Its all up to you. You know how not to act.  

Answer 6

tell me about it......

i find myself repeating the same sayings my mother used to drive us kids crazy with.. and I almost always ended it with , omg I sounded just like my mother... which always broke the tension with my kids then cause we all would laugh, but then I would repeat the saying and say, I MEAN IT.. lol...

yes we feel like it... but do we ever go to our mothers and tell them this? h**l no!!!!!!!!!!!!!  lol

good luck to you

Answer 7

i look like her but im all my dad. i have his sense of humor, him laugh, and his deep love for classic rock and history. but in your case STOP BEING YOUR MOM!