How do you cope after a miscarriage?

Question

this is my 2nd in 2 months.

i had an ectopic last year where i had to have surgery to remove the baby from my tube, then in may this year i miscarried at 5 1/2 weeks and i am in the process of a miscarriage just now also 5 1/2 weeks. the last miscarriage i wasnt so upset, i think it was because i was so releived it wasnt ectopic again. but this time they want to run tests on me to find the problem. i am so upset, why does this have to happen to me? i am heartbroken and i am also dreading these tests incase they tell me that somethig major is wrong and that i will never carry a pregnancy full term. all i want in the world id to make my 10 year old son a big brother, what is so wrong with that. life is so cruel. feel like i am losing my mind here i cant stop crying. x*x

Answer 1

Hun my heart goes out to you i have not had an ectopic but i had a miscarriage at 9 weeks april the 20th a chemical pregnancy in june and I'm now pregnant again and have a very bad feeling about this one to,

your hormones are everywhere at the moment and like me having a miscarriage within a few months makes it more harder as its still so raw.

I'm still not over my miscarriage i had in april i keep thinking this month i will be 6 months pregnant .

I found finding a miscarriage forum helped there are many out there just type in miscarriage forums and the women there are great,while it wont heal your pain,you can communicate with other women and talk it through ,god bless you hun and take care

Answer 2

i'm sooo sorry for your loss... i had a miscarriage at the begining of April of this year... and i still find it hard sometimes, when i hear of someone being pregnant or just had a baby. I'm truly happy for them but at the same time i envy of them.

As long as you have a good support team (husband, mother, sister, etc) you will be fine.

It's only natural to be worried about the upcoming test but it is for the best... just go into them thinking positively and i'm sure everything will work out just fine in the end and you will have your very own bundle of joy when the time is right.

Answer 3

Im sorry to heard about you 3 miscarriages... I know is frustating, I had a miscarriage on february at 5 weeks and it was a very sad experience i felt so miserable and sad( first baby) and i completely understand that u feel worse BUTat least you already have a son you already experience the pregnacy and labor and raising a child.  Dont say life is so cruel because some women cant even get pregnant their choices are adoption.  Everytime you feel heartbroken think about some other people having worse situation than yours that should help you

GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 4

I know it sounds stupid, and maybe a tad bit repatitive for you at this point, bu its true, everything happens for a reason.  Your body knows what a healthy pregnancy is.  I am sure it will happen at the right time.  Keep trying.  The tests are to help you, to make sure if there is anything to do to help you keep the pregnancy.  The best sign is that you can get pregnant!  so many people out there cant even EVER get pregnant!!  I know so many people who had a few miscarriages and then had a perfect pregnancy!  You know this one lady I know has had like 7 miscarriages, a few they know were girls, and she had one boy with no complications, so maybe she can not cary girls for some reason!  maybe its the same with you and your body i swaiting for a boy.  Dont give up, keep truckin, and god bless you... be thankful for what you have.