Yesterday I brought my best friend over to my grandmother's house for my 21st birthday because we were going to have pizza and cake. Everything went okay until my grandfather and my mom's brother started fighting in front of everyone for no reason. It was humiliating and embarassing, and I am strongly ashamed of the people that's supposedly my "family".
I was brought up by my dysfunctional mother's side of the family and lived with them for thirteen years, its mainly my grandfather whose always picking fights, he's extremely racist, and very (verbally) abusive and always was to my mom, my aunts, her brother, and even my grandmother. My mom's brother is extremely overweight and has a disability and I just cannot stand him either because he's just annoying, and one of my aunt's who's just an extremely nasty person.
My mom insists I have to be around them "because their family", but I hate them (specifically my mom's brother & grandfather more so than anything) and am generally better off when I'm away from them. Thing is they have no problem berating my dad's side for not being there, but they don't look at themselves and how they view me and blame me for things my father's done.
How can you cope with a dysfunctional family when your over-domineering, childish mother INSISTS you have to make your presence around them?
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