How do you cope with terrible stress?

Question

I am ready to explode! My car is in the garage, my husband is getting me psyched by telling me the one garage said it could be engine problems (a couple grand we don't have!) and the other garage said it could be something minor. Either way, we're going to be broke on the outcome of this.

My daughter is 9 months old, and I believe she's teething. Well, she has a doctor's appointment 35 minutes away (out of town) Wednesday, but it looks as though I won't have a vehicle or anyone to take me there. So I'm f**ked. I am not dealing with this very well. I had a horrible headache last night thinking about what could be wrong with my car. My daughter cried for three hours straight last night before bed. I gave her medicine and comforted her, but she wasn't willing on resting easily. I realize she can be responding to my stress and reacting. She was crying this morning and I couldn't take it anymore so I yelled at her, I feel horrible now. I just can't seem to relax with this stress! Suggestions on what I can do to relax? I was thinking cleaning.. but I do that daily!

Answer 1

See section 42 at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page i first. Try Ginseng or Lady's Slipper. Get your husband to deal with garages, as they often take advantage of female's lack of mechanical knowledge. Always get at least 3 quotes, if possible.

Answer 2

Bless your heart!  I know exactly what you are going through.  Unfortunately stress is part of life but here are a few suggestions from my own experiences...

First Stay away from Caffeen!  It only rev's you up!  

Try exercising, it's proven to help the seritonin levels in the brain.  It's actually pretty easy to exercise when you are angry and stressed because it helps get it out.  Even if all you do is take the baby out for a stroll, it will help.  Both of you.

Also, before you explode try some deep breathing exercises.   It helps relax you.  If you are really wound up, you may have to spend a little while because it may take a little longer to relax.

My best advise is to pray.  Jesus had been my best friend through all the tough times.  God never said we wouldn't have problems in life but he did say he would get us through them.

I really hope this helps!

Answer 3

Sometimes we have to let go of what we can't control and concentrate solely on what we can. It sucks that your car is in the garage, but you can't control what they need to fix. You can control how you financially bounce back from it. See if they will do a payment plan. Reschedule your daughter's appt (another thing that you can control).

I calm down by crocheting, cross-stitching, sewing, painting, drawing, or even writing answers to other peoples questions. Make it fun. For teething, you could give her a frozen waffle to chew on (this helped my son tremendously), just stay there with her so that she doesn't bite off a chunk.

Answer 4

just chill, your a new mum of course yr gunna stress out at times, but just get 15 minutes on your own stop thinking.get a baby sitter or someone to look after her for an hour just so u can calm down

your not stressing out to badly tho, i managed to make myself so sick due to stess i ended up in hospitol

Answer 5

well the best stress buster is exercise, but if your car is stuffed i guess you will be getting alot of that anyway, lol. I'm sorry, i know exactly how you feel, my son responds to my stress unbelievably which just makes me more stressed. is there anyone that could take your bub for a bit? Take a deep breath. Everything will be ok!