How do you counterattack a SUBTLE bully or bullying in general?

Question

Whether at work or in social places, I feel like a fish out of water. I'm generally a nice person; maybe a bit naive (or I show my naivete and sweetness, which hurts me in the end).

People see this and attack. I'm often bullied. It happened when I was a kid and in the workplace. How do I handle it and counterattack the subtle ones -- the ones who are the MOST vicious and passive-aggressive, the ones who smile coyly when they see your weakness, and then look for anywhere and everywehre to attack you???

Answer 1

You need to look them directly in the eyes and tell them that their behavior is out of line and that you do not appreciate it.

And if they don't respond after a private one on one conversation, tell them in a place where and in a voice that others can hear.  Don't be afraid to express yourself in a public forum.  That manner of pushing your position will make the perpetrators realize that you are serious and are not afraid to expose their boorish behavior.