How do you deal with a 9 yr old boy that is into p**n already?

Question

How do you deal with a 9 yr old boy that is into p**n already?

Answer 1

Oh my!  Um... I'm thinking this boy is probably more curious about things than gaining any sexual gratification from the pornography.

Have you had "the" talk with him yet?  Might be a good time to set the record straight as you don't want him getting s*x ed from pornos.

There are some great books out there that help explain things, and these would probably be far more appropriate than unrealistic and completely inappropriate pornography.

Answer 2

Since stores are not going to sell this garbage to a 9 year old it would make me wonder either one, who's house is he at that he is taking it from and two, if not someone else's house then why is it coming into your's?

If he is getting it from a friends house it tells me there are probably other objectionable things that he is exposed to. Could a teenage sibling or friends sibling be the source of this? I'd find out where and how he's getting this first off. The next thing I'd do is confinscate all of it from him and either burn it or put in the trash under a bag of something exceptionally smelly so he isn't digging it out.  While it is normal for kids at different ages to be curious about their own body and the opposite s*x, looking at p**n is NOT a healthy past time because it display's women in demeaning ways as s*x objects without respect. It's disgusting and gives a skewed impression.

Let your child know that it is OK to have questions about s*x and his own body, but that p**n is NOT something you will permit in your home. If he has questions answer them honestly for him, unless you're a female, then he may be more comfortable talking about it with his dad or another trusted male influence in his life that you know will give him appropriate answers to his questions.

Answer 3

The same as you would a 14 year old.  Kids develop sexual curiosity at many ages.  There are a great many males who start getting curious at the age of 8, 9 and so on.  

Take away the material and ask him why he had it.  Then ask him what he thinks this is all about.  You need to have a serious (as in scientific) talk with your son and explain to him all about the birds and the bees, but also about the dangers and that it is really best left to adults.

He is probably more curious about this than anything else.  I don't know of many 9 year olds that want to have s*x, but seeing a naked lady is pretty interesting to them (despite was they were doing).  

And believe it or not, interest aside, he probably got pretty confused and maybe even a little horrified.  So he may have gotten all he needed by looking at it.  

Talk to him and take it easy.  All kids want to know about the opposite s*x and what it looks like.  Just explain to him that p**n is not what it's all about and that it is meant for adults and adults only.

Answer 4

First, I'd like to know how your 9 year old even knows about p**n!!??!!

Monitor what he's doing/watching (internet, tv, etc.) and block that stuff.  I fyou have p**n in your house (like magazines, movies, etc.) get rid of it.  Get him in some counseling and try getting him involved with normal 9 year old stuff, like little league, riding bikes, etc.  But I would certainly take him to see a counselor, or even your pastor.  Kids are certainly curious about the differences about boys and girls, bodies, etc. but p**n is not a healthy sign at that age.  Good luck.

Answer 5

take away the internet.

or block p**n sites.

there are parental controls on the internet.

Answer 6

I can only assume how he gets ahold of his p**n, but take him to a priest for some counciling- maybe the humilliation will make him stop

Answer 7

Ummm, do your job as a parent and don't allow him access to outlets that he can see it on...

If he's being allowed to look, that is a form of sexual abuse and that is unacceptable.

Answer 8

talk to him about it because if you just take it away in the home he will still watch or see it somewhere else.

Answer 9

p**n is not natural. I am abhorred by people that say that. Curiosity is natural. p**n is about using another person (and sometimes abusing) them for your own pleasure. Boys and girls both need to learn that physical is one part, but that the whole person needs to be respected... people are not things.

Curiosity is natural. p**n is not. If your 9 year old is into it already... that sounds like you expect him to be into it at some point. So he may be into it because you seem to think that at some point it is going to be ok. Also, obviously he has access to p**n. Since he is at a curious age... and since he has access to p**n, he uses p**n to satisfy that curiousity. that is a parenting issue. Not a 9 year old issue.

Answer 10

Giving his parents a good slap upside the head for not supervising him better.

Answer 11

sounds like you need to have the birds and the bees talk, and explain that it is a private matter that he needs to keep in his room and maybe get him a lil keep out sign to put on his door when he wants privacy. Hes now seen it and hes gonna crave it tryin to prevent him from it will only make him hide it and you might walk in to an american pie situation. LOL (tried to keep the hit mild) Its better he have is own lil stash I think then for him to go looking in yours and finding something of mom or dadGL

Answer 12

a certain amount of natural curiosity is normal, but if he's accessing p**n on the computer, then he no longer has unsupervised access to the computer. The ball is in your court. If you're watching closely enough he will not be able to watch it. If it's magazines, etc., then you need to watch more closely how he spends his money.