How do you deal with a class bully?

Question

I am a preschool teacher and have a 5 year old child in my class who enjoys being a bully. I have tried both negative and positive reinforcement. Neither works. I have taken things away and told him if he cannot follow the rules he will leave our class. Nothing seems to work. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

well never resort to violince

ask them exactly what happend

then ask them nicly why they did it

if the bulling doesnt stop

:time out

:no recess

:note home

:parent teacher confrence

:princible

:expelled

Answer 2

As a former victim of bullying it is a difficult question especially as a teacher and not the subject of the abuse. From experience the best solution is when the bully feels alone in the class as a result of his actions. This is not necessarily done by you but by the students themselves. Speaking to the parents can work at times, but you never quite know how the parents will react and if it will result in a positive or negative situation. If the victim stands up to the bully, usually he/she moves on until they find someone who will not stand up to them. Punishment by an authoritative figure (ie teacher or principle) can work to an extent, but can also further aggression ("Now I got in trouble because of you" feelings). As I said a bully is least effective when he is alone and outcasted as a result of his actions. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Been there done that. Refer the child for a mental health evaluation. Something else may be going on in this child's life.

Answer 4

Only way to beat a bully is to stand up to him.

Answer 5

The best results I have seen with a violent or verbally abusive child have come from positive reinforcement but not the usual saying good things about good behaviors, when they do something wrong, have them write words and sentences during free play time, such as recess or indoor free play, and make the words and/or sentences that show kindness or the proper behavior in the situation, such as if the child pushed another child for a toy use words such as please and share in the writing and make sure they know what they are writing, after a few times they will remember those words and use them. Remember a bully does what they do because someone treats them unfairly so don't make them feel that they are bad let them know they are good but let them remind them how they would feel if someone did what they did to them and give them better options to use next time, have them sign a pretend contract of behavior with what they should do to better handle the same situation next time!

Answer 6

A large group of fellow students applying peer pressure together at the same time might do the trick.

Answer 7

When the parents come to pick up the little monster , tell them NOT to bring him back until they solve his "attitude" problem ....... which he probably picked up at home !

IF you`ve told anyone about him and his bullying , and he happens to push another kid over a chair or desk , and injures him or her ............. YOU could be in deep legal doo-doo if that person was to tell the authorities you KNEW the kid was bullying others , and you did nothing effective .

Answer 8

let his parents know so they can take away some of their home privilages....But while they're in school you can let them sit in the corner and watch the other kids play until he can behave

Answer 9

Is this really that hard? Talk to the parents, its their fault for his violent behavior not yours. Tell them that if they're child does not stop this bullying behavior you'll have to pull him out of school.

Answer 10

Call their parents and hopefully they will take action from home.  Mom and Dad are a lot scarier than teacher :)

Answer 11

take him to the school counselor

Answer 12

Apparantly he is continuing to do it, so don't go against what you said. Make him leave the class. If you don't do what you said he will know that he can continue and you won't really make him leave.

Answer 13

tell his/her parents... it's all about discipline...

Answer 14

Have you tried talking with the childs parents?

Answer 15

do make him leave the class, then he will not have control. good luck.

Answer 16

Even though it is kind of wrong, get an older kid who is smart enough to understand the problem. I'd say around 12-14, and make him bully the bully once. then that kid can leave and the bully will be gone. I think the most effective way to stop a bully is to stand up to him but you being a teacher, you cant do that...

Answer 17

talk to someone you trust but that is also responsible or you can stand up to the bully

Answer 18

I would talk to the childs parent and remember what the child is doing so you can tell the parents. Give it few days to see what the parents have inforced. If it procceds, i would put the child in as many time-outs and get to his eye level and tell him whats hes doing is mean and you wont tolorate it. If it continues, talk to the parents again and any other teachers to see what they think!

Answer 19

i was once in pre-k. be a lttle rough but to hard cause he is only 5 rember that. u no wat i mean

Answer 20

tell the principal and get him suspended or expelled

Answer 21

Give him an assignment with a student who you know he will not bully and keep him busy in a positive way. I'm not talking about dittos either.  Also discuss bullying and feeling with the class. Maybe read a book dealing with the topic. Make bully prevention an everyday thing not just when it happens.