How do you deal with a coworker who is constantly telling her coworkers that her Dad molested her?

Question

I'm not heartless but its inappropriate for a grown woman to tell anyone who will listen my Dad raped me! Its usually an excuse like I don't trust people because my Dad raped me or I have a temper because my Dad raped me and it messed me up.As an adult I can say I have been raped but I would not dream of telling my coworkers or using it as an excuse for things.Its getting old. How to deal with this person?

Answer 1

i would think that should be brought to the attention of your management.  and they should deal with it.  that's a little too much info to share over lunch.  good luck

Answer 2

A very difficult situation

I think as your obviously not a heartless person you could be the right person to help her. Its plain that she needs help probably in the form of counseling.

Next time she tells you could you not say to her something like

" sorry to hear that, would you like to sit and chat about it?" it might help her a lot and you would be the ideal person as you have had the experience of being raped.

BUT if she is just using it as an excuse for her unsocial behavior then its a different matter, she needs reporting to the management,let them deal with it

Answer 3

You tell her that it is very inappropriate to discuss this topic in a work environment. Any subject that even hints at s*x is a no no in the work place.

Answer 4

You tell her to hush up about such personal business and get a therapist. soon. If it continues you tell your boss about it and I'm sure s(he) will talk to her about it. I'm not quite sure if you can count that as sexual harassment (pretty sure you can't) but it is something very disturbing and should be taken care of elsewhere, not at work.

Answer 5

Politely say, "I'm sorry to hear that again, Perhaps you would benefit from a therapist to help you cope and to lessen the interference this has on your life."  If she keeps bringing it up, she is definately troubled by it. It's not a a reason for her to use for every action that she does. I would hope that her father raping her doesn't define her as a person. She needs to see there's more to life than her past. Good luck with her!

Answer 6

Well... I'm a rape victim too, and let me tell you that if i were raped by my FATHER, i certainly wouldn't be that open about it!! sounds to me like she's either full of c**p, or not as messed up by it as she brags about. I'd complain to your boss. Your boss should be able to take care of it. Until then, I'd just ignore her....

Answer 7

Make fun of her. Do something and then apologize and say its cuz her dad raped her. Eat a sandwich and say its cuz it her dad raped her.

Get mad and scream and then say its cuz her dad raped her.

Im the Devil.

Answer 8

Yeah, I would suggested therapy ever time she brings it up.  How creepy.........  I had a friend who always claimed to be poor and have a horrible unloved childhood... and she would go into great detail about it with co-workers and other people.  Well, funny cause I know her since 8th grade and it was all untrue but people make their own "lives" sometimes.

Answer 9

push her into getting into therapy.  

Answer 10

Maybe sit down and talk with her. I really don't have a solution for this.

I know your not a mean person [read you about me :)] but n.e ways try to ignore her. Or tell the others to Ignore her as well.

Hope I helped :/