How do you deal with a death in your high school band?

Question

I graduated last year and I just found out on monday that one of the freshmen trumpet players passed away. I am devistated right now. I know im an alumni but it still hurts as if i were still a student. I just can't believe this. Should I get my band director a card or something? This is the first time we had a death in the band. Can these deaths affect alumni as much as the current students?

Answer 1

The only thing you all can do is be there for each other, talk about him all the good times ya know, dont think about the bad times or sad times. I'm sure he wouldnt want yall to be sad. Maybe set up a memorial

Answer 2

Two of my friends who were freshmen died last year.. I think I have it worse..

Answer 3

Not to be harsh, but deaths happen. I've had all my grandparents die, life moves on.  

Answer 4

find a replacement.