How do you deal with a death of a childs boyfriend?

Question

my daughters boyfriend accidently shot himself in the head on his 19 birthday. he called about a hour before he did I said she was not here, I don't know what to say to her please help.

Answer 1

A loss in any stage of life is very hard to deal with, especially an unexpected loss like this one.  I would suggest that you treat the situation just as you would if one of your husband's close friends had died suddenly.  Let her know how much you love her and how sorry you are.  Be there for her and try to listen for clues that she needs time to talk or time to be alone.  Death is a hard thing to face, she will get through this, all you can do is help in whatever way you can.

If this person didn't actually shoot himself accidentally, it would be very good for her to see a counselor.  A teenager dealing with the sudden suicide of a close friend is a very serious and potentially damaging situation.

Answer 2

she'll see him again in the afterlife

and everything happens for a reason

im sry to hear that.

Answer 3

that shocked me a bit wow i already feel u..all u can do is to be by her side tell her how much u love her and that he will always see u from up thr..But seriously if i ever lost my bf i would lose the world  

Answer 4

Comfort her and be there for her as much as you can be.

Accidents bring both tragedy and joy, this happened to be a tragedy.  Reassure her that although he's gone, he IS okay and she will be too. He is watching over her now. Tell her to take the time that she needs heal.

And if the right words can't seem to find you, just tell her that she'll always have your hand to hold if she needs it.

Answer 5

Be there for her as much as you can, but remind her she can't revolve her life around this. She's going to have to move on at some point.

Answer 6

Accidentally? How did he accidentally shoot himself in the head? I don't think you can accidentally shoot yourself in the head... That's kind of like, something you MEAN to do...

Answer 7

Talk to your pastor or a local minister.   You must just tell her that he accidently shot himself.  You need to be around her now for support.  She cannot be left alone.