How do you deal with a family break up?

Question

I'm grown up and have moved away from home and live with my partner. My mum and dad split up when I was very small so I have known no different and did not have to deal with it. When my parents divorced my mum and I moved in with my grandparents and since then I have always been incredibly close to both my nan and granda.

Now my nan has had enough (don't want to go into details but I understand exactly why) she has her bags packed and wants to leave. I'm absolutely heartbroken and don't know how to deal with it. I obviously do not want them to split up (they have been married almost 50 years) but I don't want my nan to carry on like this, being so tired and worn down. I know my granda would be lost without my nan and wouldn't be able to cope. He has upset everyone in the family and at the mo there is only me and my partner talking to him. Do you think there is a way we can make him see what he is losing and get him to get help and change?

It's killing me thinking of him alone and everyone picking sides. I keep thinking about the future, Christmases, birthdays, my wedding. It's bad enough having parents that don't get along never mind grandparents.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated x

Answer 1

just  tell  here  way  you feel

Answer 2

Is there any chance that granda is suffering from dementia or alzheimers?  50 yrs of marriage is an awful long time- doesn't seem like things should blow up overnight, especially at their age.  

Otherwise, they are grownups - and capable of making their own life decisions.  You wouldn't want them to butt into your business, so don't you butt into theirs.  Be there for them, but stay out of the conflict.  

Answer 3

Let your grandmother go. Obviously after 50 years, she really could do with a break from him. If he's an alcoholic and in denial about it, there's a reason why no-one wants to speak to him. You can only try talking to him, but I don't think it will do anyone any good. Let him learn the hard way that excessive drinking only drives the love away.  

Answer 4

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