How do you deal with a husband who never really appreciate you and always take you for granted? ?

Question

Inspite of all the effort, he always complains and seldom show his appreciation. He become boastful and to proud of himself. Is it worth it to just keep quite and just accept it.

Answer 1

Kick his @$$!!!  

Answer 2

I know exactly what u r talking about. it is really annoying how conveiniently these guys want to be treated like kings. Mind u all men r not the same. May be u should talk to him and tell him how u feel. If he is a caring man he will work towards it if not do u really want to live with a selfish man all ur life

good luck

Answer 3

why should you just keep quiet. tell him how you feel because you deserve some attention. i bet he gives you attention when he wants to get laid. if he only shows you affection when he wants s*x push him off and explain that if you arent good enough at other times you arent good enough then.

Answer 4

You will know what will work in your case. You can try withholding services that you do. Dinner is not ready, let him make his own. Laundry he can do for himself etc. No it is not worth it to be quiet and accept it. That is not the way you want to be treated. You better think about the ways you want him treat you, and then spell it all out to him what you expect in return of what you do for him already. He has an overblown  ego. get it down a few notches, at a time.

Answer 5

u open the door and boot his A** out! lifes to short for all that c**p..

Answer 6

DIVORCE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! it will only get worse as the years pass and you allow him to treat you this way.

Answer 7

No, don't keep quite... voice your opinion...he needs a reality check.

Answer 8

Quit doing for him!  

Answer 9

This must be the most retarded question ever.

Do you really think people will tell you "Yes, it IS worth it to keep quiet, and accept it, and let him take you for granted"...  ???

Answer 10

Confront him on it - tell him how you feel.  There needs to be communication in marriage - and while he might be demonstrating these negative qualities, you are demonstrating a negative idea - the idea of just 'keeping quiet' and accepting it.

This doesn't have to be an argument - it can be a calm, rational discussion.

Good luck!

Answer 11

I am sure there are two sides to this story, all you say is you put in effort, but do you really?  How can some one tell you what decision to make in your life when they know nothing about the actual situation.  You married this man knowing how your relationship was, knowing who he was, and now you don't like it?

Answer 12

I hate to say this, but he has treated you this way because you have allowed him too. Why would you want to continue living with a man who obviously is not happy himself. Talk to him. Let him know how you feel. If he doesn't change, then maybe its time to move on. Good luck!!

Answer 13

Do not accept it, it will just get worse down the road.  Talk to him and tell him if you are going to do things special for him and he complains about it you will no longer be doing that for him any longer and mean it.  If he still continues put your foot down and tell him he either needs to straighten up or the two of you will separate and mean that as well follow up with what you are going to do otherwise he will never ever change.  Good luck.

Answer 14

Give him a dose of his own medicine and see what will happen. Good luck.

Answer 15

Same situation here...

I got plenty of answers ..........but this is life...I dont know what else to say..

Just do what makes you feel happy..you know him better than any of us.Talk to him and find out what he thinks if he is communicative.

Otherwise learn to think like him , know his mind and find an answer.Take your time. Divorse is not a solution here.

Good Luck!

Answer 16

Do the two of you ever really communicate?  You need to tell him how you feel.

Answer 17

communicate before it gets worse...it if it gets worse, offer consequences...