How do you deal with a spouse who you're not attracted to?

Question

My wife has gotten a LOT bigger since we got together...I've paid for club memberships and purchased CDs...what do I do???

Answer 1

tell her that you think she needs to lose weight. or get oveer it. there has to be some other reasons that are bigger than her physical appearence that you love about her. otherwise, get a divorce. and your a jerk!!!  

Answer 2

Have you tried working out with her? I know I need motivation to work out. When my fiance works out with me, I feel way more motivated than I would if I were working out alone!

Answer 3

Tell the fat slob to lose weight or she will lose you.

Answer 4

You deal with her the same way when you first got married and when you first met each other.  If you have kids, take walks with them. You see, your wife needs to have motivation. Right now, she probably doesn't have that because she is probably tired because of work and the kids, etc..... The only way she will be motivated is when she sees that in herself that she does need to lose weight, eat healthier, and do exercise 3-4 times a week. You can sit with her and tell her that you are 'concerned' with her health and you would like her to find ways to help her get back in shape. If she doesn't make that effort, then you can start by buying healthier foods, no more junk foods! Buy greens, grains, no more soda pops! Drink water instead of soda. No more fried foods. Stay away from refined sugars like cupcakes, cakes, etc.... If you have kids that are over weight, take them out bike-riding along with your wife. Watch less TV do more walking instead. Don't forget after telling your wife on how concerned you are for her health, tell her that you love her but don't pressure her if she resists. It will only make things worse. Let her do it on her own and when she has questions regarding the help, then help her any way that you can. You lead, she will follow in time.  

Answer 5

Tell her to get her big butt off the couch and to the gym... or to a divorce attorney... cause you are not attracted to her the way she is now.  

Answer 6

wow!!!