How do you deal with a teenage son who has an attitude with you about everything and can't give a reason why?

Question

I try to help my son with almost everything he has to deal with but to no avail.Ever since he was in grade one, he did everything by himself. He never let me help him with homework or projects. He loves english but struggles with math. And I still can't help. It was as if I am uneducated. Only his teachers know everything. He loves baking and cooking and would do everything by himself even if it flops. All I'm trying to do is equip him for life out there. I only want the best for him.

Answer 1

Teenagers are awful, the good point is that they grow out of it.

The are so stinking hard from about 15-19, Then as they get more comfortable with adult hood they get better.

You just have to survive it and let them fail, that is how they learn and grow, you can't protect him his whole life, better now than later.

Answer 2

O teenagers is so freaking hard. I now think how the h**l did my Mom deal so well with me. I mean we had our arguments but she handled me so well. I have a teenage stepson and boy teenagers they think they know everything and we are stupid and old fashioned and know nothing of anything. At first I was very offended by his attitude towards us and how he pushed us away etc.. They need their space but although they pretend and probably even think they don't need your help ...they do. So here's what we did. We gave him his certain amount of freedom but obviously there is rules. Also when he is in one of his moods and had attitude I try to ignore it , I sit with him and chat with him and ask him questions about the bands he listens to and what ever he is in to never about girlfriends and those things..I try preach little as possible but remind him of his goals in life. But he doesn't live with us all the time and his mom complains also a bit. Kids these days are under allot of pressure from friends and school. Really they need a break from all this stress. Bu they also need to be close to you so that you know whats going on in their lives so that one day you don't awaken to a drug addict nightmare or something like that. They need to be independand but also need attention. And also not too much preaching and moaning. Also don't say no too often. Then they re not going to take your no so seriously when you do say no.  Teenagers is so hard to deal with its they are on another planet. They know it all and we are stupid idiots .Good Luck .

Answer 3

He's head strong. Sometimes the best way to learn something is by trial and failure. Just make sure he knows you are there if he needs you. You apparently have given him the strength to go out and try even at the risk of it flopping. I think you already taught him the best lesson in life.  

Answer 4

I was a teenager once and i dont know why, but i had the same problem.

I would push away my parents and tell them nothing about where i was going, what i was doing or let them help with much really.

For one, they are in the mindset that you as a parent know nothing about anything. They dont want your help because they want to do it themselves.

Hope what i said just made sense, just try to be his backup just in case something goes wrong.

Answer 5

i have 2 teenage son's and a 9 years old.i think it is brilliant to not only be mum but to be best friend to each of them.my son's can tell me everything.they tell me things that i personally know their mates can't tell their mum's.my oldest son comes to me with personal troubles of his friends.i help him with his personal problems etc.my middle son is the same.my youngest son is following the same.i am not showing off,but i have always spent special moments with each of them told them all how special they are,but at the same time they all know i love them the same.it is a good thing that your son has his independence you could learn just to support him in his idea's and let him know you are proud of him.HE IS equipping himself for life.just tell him also that you are always their for him in any times of trouble and for him to know that he can't shock you,you have been a teenager and remember what its like.my son told me he had had a first sexual encounter,the thing then is not to shout,its to say well are you being careful and help to make sure your not going to be a granny.i am also now his girlfriends friend.i have said she can talk to me about anything and she has.its important just to be a support and that way they have respect for you and dangerous situation a sorted out by an adult instead of a teenager.my son is still independent and you have to allow a teenager that.so just love him, support him,praise him,be his friend,dont be angry with what he might tell you,and gradually you will get on better with him and have a harmonious relationship that really is the best.please just try it and see,it might take longer as he is already a teenager,but you could say its things like contraception,girl friend troubles etc that you could find you want to talk to me about as i understand what a female thinks like.good luck i hope things work out well for both of you.    

Answer 6

heh, the same category of question as "what is the meaning of life?"

pathetic of me. i thought i could find an acceptable answer :S

hmm.  try for a while to act like his brother , and not parent. that makes sense?..