How do you deal with aggressive, opportunistic, bs/player type of people? Why do they hate when ur onto them?

Question

I can't STAND these type of people. I LOATHE them. Yet they're everywhere. Everyone wants a buck, an opportunity, this/that, and if you're not careful, some of these shark types of people can use you, abuse you, and destroy you even.

I've dealt with quite a few, and I'm pretty much very distrustful of many of people nowadays because of that.

But how does one handle such types? When I spot them out, I usually give them glares, to just show that I don't approve of that, and when they catch my glare and realize what I'm glaring about etc, if they're not total morons, they roll their eyes too and flip me the finger or what not.

Honestly, How do you handle these types of people? You know, the fast talkers, charmers, totally positive people who are acting like your best friends, when they clearly want something from you. Why do they hate it when you catch onto their game?

Are they so STUPID to think that their little games actually WORK?

I mean, I just can't stand people like this.

Usually young people and teenagers are notorious for being this way until they learn later in life that you can't f8ck with everyone and anyone.

It's weird. People like to be scumbags, but hate it when others call them out on it.

This isn't a free for all, anything goes society....it may be what it's turning into, but you can't just play and treat everyone like they're total sh9t, because the ones that see what you're doing, will have a problem with it.

That's what it comes down to.

Answer 1

They ususally have sexual problems, as well as identity issues. Like, they'll change who they are to fit in with the rest of the group and they're willing to sacrifice what they believe in in order to accepted.  

Answer 2

These all people are using you.  I have got same experience like you but you have to be patience and ignore these kind of people. if you make freinds do not tell your personal things to them. I know this is hard.

Answer 3

"Why do they hate it when you catch onto their game?"  Because it is a game, a game of deceit.   They are liars caught in their lie, which defeats the effectiveness of the lie.

Unfortunately we live in a time and culture where "spin" is tolerated all too much--think about advertisers and politicians, constant blatant lies.

"Are they so STUPID to think that their little games actually WORK?"  Unfortunately, again, occasionally--not always or consistently--such deceitful efforts do succeed.  Look at the politicians that do get elected!

What to do.

1.  Keep your cards close to your chest.  Don't trust anyone completely, and maybe a few after they have proven themselves trustworthy over time.  Keep things about yourself to yourself.  Reveal only what you must, and then carefully at that.

2.  Get a log book (small notebook) and document what you do--the important tasks--with the date and time.  This is admissible in court as evidence, to a degree.  Document any problems too that you think might become problems for you (via false accusation or whatever)--problems have a way of re-surfacing months later, when your memory is  not sharp!

3.  Keep any interaction with these people impersonal and limited to the needs of the workplace.

4.  Do your work well and honestly, and over time, in spite of minor setbacks, you will come out on top!