How do you deal with an over-protective mother?

Question

- DAD DIED

- I AM F/14

Answer 1

You just have to get through it until you are 18. She may know a little more than you do or at least some different aspects of certain situations so be gentle with her. She'll probably get smarter and wiser in the next few years so be patient. As soon as appropriate get her a hot bf so she has less time to devote to you.  Keep a diary. 8~)

Answer 2

well be glad she cares,but also tell her you're glad she cares but you're growing up and do very well need space&she needs to let a lil lose and take a chance,

talk to her,

Answer 3

Some people write the dumbest answers, as if you would punch her in the throat!

Id be glad you have a mother who cares about you...but I do understang that an over-protecitve mother can be kinda annoying...I bet you feel like you dont get to do anything fun, cant be on your own etc....

Unfortunaly, this is something that will only change with time...the older you get the more your mum will relax and start to trust you and your decisions!  Dont do anything to damage the trust she already has for you and as you get older, things will become easier!

Answer 4

my sympathies on ya dad hun *hugz*

As an (over?) protective mother, we cant help ourselves. Our kids come first, its a natural thing. We want to nurture, protect, and shelter our babies..that being said..sometimes, we over step the mark! We forget our kids are growing up, maturing, learning their own life lessons.

Talk to your mum :) Most parents, after the yelling or the tears, are happy to listen to their kids, to have those roads of communication open.

I have a 14 year old...she hates me half the time for the decisions I make on her behalf lol..but she understands that I do it for her. Not to stop her from having fun, but to keep her safe..and in this day and age..there are a helluva lot of things 14 year old girls (and boys) need to be kept safe from.

Talk to your mum, or write her a letter. Tell her you understand, shes probably going to more protective of you because your dad has gone, but your 14, and you need just a little bit more freedom. Be honest with her and prove you can be trusted :)

Answer 5

Remember that you're only 14.

Have a talk with her - you're old enough to understand what's going on around you. Respect and appreciate her for caring - you're young enough to need a mother.

Answer 6

well honey if you are all she has left can you blame her? I think a lot depends on how long ago your father her husband and life partner, passed away, if it was pretty recent in the last year or so then you have to give her a bit of time and go with the flow, if it was a few years ago then you need to talk to her and get her to let you prove that you are capable of doing things for yourself by yourself etc, once you have achieved things safely and sensibley she will know she can trust you and that way gradually you will get more and more freedom.

Answer 7

hmm.

I love you mum. but, you're smothering me. I'll be careful. (with a smile, not aggro..)

Talk with her more so she knows where you're at, intellectually and socially. She's scared of the unknown and all the horrible possiblilities. If she knows how you think and operate, the outcome of the scenarios that concern her are more predictable. With that knowledge she can calculate the risk more rationally. And be comforted knowing that you'll do the smart and safe thing if trouble is heading your way. Providing you recognise it as trouble/danger in the first place.

She loves you. And it's hard to let go. It's like watching the first steps of your baby, the excitement and joy are overwhealming, combined with the fear and anxiety that they may fall and hurt themselves on something really badly. All over again.

She will hold your hand until she knows you won't fall and hurt. Until you have shown her you got it covered just fine. Simply because if anything happened to you, she would blame herself for not being there.

Talk to your mum, she is your best friend.

Answer 8

i am basically in the same situation accept that i am 15. First of all your mom is probably protective because she loves you and doesn't want to loose you. the best way to deal with this is, rather than rebelling and budding heads with your mom is to find ways around her protectiveness. Things you want to do that she is ok with. Maybe have a talk with her and find a compromise.

Answer 9

submit 2 her. then when ur grown tell every 1 she is dead.

Answer 10

I am an overprotective mother.  ps...when I was 15 and walking to school I was kidnapped at gunpoint by a serial rapist. Be glad you have a mom who cares.