How do you deal with back stabbers?

Question

or people that talk behind your back and turn someone against you by making up stories that you talk bad about them.

Answer 1

Ignore or confront.  Those are the only two effective solutions.

Answer 2

I would  pray for them to be nicer one day.I would not be mean to them. If they were never going to be respectful they would lose my friendship. I would be glad not to see them anymore.

Answer 3

To the person who informs you about the lies: set them straight on the truth. Then you go to the liar and tell him or her that you know all about the slander. Even if the informer doesn't want you to confront, tell the person that you have the right to confront the liar and that it is only fair, since that person is defaming you.

Answer 4

Ignore them and avoid them.  You are the one that knows the truth about yourself and the things you have said and if anyone listens to these backstabbers, then so be it.  They are not worth your time anyway.

Answer 5

they are nothing to you. they are idiots who are miserable in their own sad lives. try and ignore them. you are the better person. i know it sucks though. good luck.

Answer 6

Ignore them.  It is really hard to do but really, truly, ignore them.  Paying attention to them gives them the power over you they crave.  Be yourself, be honest with yourself and others.  Backstabbers only end up shooting themselves in the foot and cutting off their own noses.  If you are a good person the people who they've lied to will see in time that what they claimed about you was false.  If they don't see the truth and are so easily swayed, do you really want to keep them around anyway?

Answer 7

Ignoring them would be hard for me to do.  I would probably go to the person who is making up the stories.  Politely tell them you have not been talking badly about them and want them to know if they hear any further stories, you want them to come directly to you from now on.  That shows you are willing to deal head on and aren't a wimp, and that should instill a feeling you are to be trusted!

Answer 8

shut them out of my life completely. one of my friends stabbed me in he back and i havent talked to her since. she called me once, i hung up on her.

Answer 9

Ignore them. Doing anything else makes you look desperate or like you do indeed have something to hide. People who would backstab you once would have no problem doing it again, so just ignore them and move on. They are not kind people or the kind of people nice people associate with.

And, most importantly, do not talk about them unless you are responding to someone else and then say only nice or neutral things. Then change the subject to something else entirely.

Answer 10

I shun them.